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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Visiting "resting" places...
DH and I got into a debate a while ago about if an ex of ours died would we go.
I said yes, an ex that I was extremely close to and was the first person I felt strongly for before DH died a while back and I didn't find out until recently. We lost touch because we were young and I had to move away.
I said I wanted to go pay my respects, it's just been nipping at me lately.
DH said well how would you feel if one of my ex's died and I wanted to go.
I told him I was fine with it and understood they were a part of his life that he remembers as a good part, it's not like he's still in love with them so I wouldn't mind.
Well he rolled his eyes and definitely wasn't believing me.
I told him that I was serious, death *as cliche as it is* is so much bigger than any person that it's not something to mess with, you pay your respects or don't....end of story, doesn't matter who wronged who.
So....I want to know
If *heaven forbid* an ex that you were smitten with back in the day still was on your good side.....if they died would you go to their funeral or visit their resting place?
I said yes, an ex that I was extremely close to and was the first person I felt strongly for before DH died a while back and I didn't find out until recently. We lost touch because we were young and I had to move away.
I said I wanted to go pay my respects, it's just been nipping at me lately.
DH said well how would you feel if one of my ex's died and I wanted to go.
I told him I was fine with it and understood they were a part of his life that he remembers as a good part, it's not like he's still in love with them so I wouldn't mind.
Well he rolled his eyes and definitely wasn't believing me.
I told him that I was serious, death *as cliche as it is* is so much bigger than any person that it's not something to mess with, you pay your respects or don't....end of story, doesn't matter who wronged who.
So....I want to know
If *heaven forbid* an ex that you were smitten with back in the day still was on your good side.....if they died would you go to their funeral or visit their resting place?
Re: Visiting "resting" places...
Visiting graves is not how I mourn loss. However, I understand that everyone mourns differently, and I think it's perfectly acceptable to mourn the loss of someone with whom you were once close.