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A FB quandary

My dad's wife has requested to be a friend.  We have never been close.  In fact, she has been on my naughty list for most of my life.  (And check out my wedding family photos for a real giggle at what she chose to wear. Oy.) Lately, I have been ambivalent.  I can't ignore this one.  Curiously, she is friends with my brothers, but not my sister.  Hmmm.  Maybe I will ask my sister about this.  Or just put her on a limited view.

Very interesting....

Re: A FB quandary

  • I would vote to ignore and not 'friend' her.

    oh..that outfit. sigh.

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  • Friend her to avoid drama but limit what she can see.  That's what I do with people I really don't want to be friends with...
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  • LOL at "wedding t-shirt"....
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  • I would probably do the limited profile like Kocal says, but you should go with you gut.  Just ignore her if you really don't want her to be part of your life. 

  • I would consider ignoring her.   Then if she asks, you can say that you never get on facebook, don't have time, etc.

    Alternatively, you can friend her, and then "un-friend" her later, she won't know and you can claim ignorance then. 

     
     

     

  • ooh, I like the friend-then unfriend option too.
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  • do you have your mom, dad, or ILs as a friend? if not, i would say that you just don't have any parental figures as friends. and if she's the first to be on fb, stick with that.?

    i have my MIL as my friend but i love her. i am very glad that my FIL and SILs haven't tried to friend me as i've no interest in adding them and i can't really say no when i've got my MIL as a friend . . . ?

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  • Ah man, I've forgotten the lovely outfit she wore to your wedding (haven't looked at your bio in a while), but yeah... I'd friend her, but let her see limited information if you don't want to deal with her seeing everything that goes on in your life.
  • Alright, well my dad is requesting to be my friend as well.  So I gave in and added both.  I am not going to even bother to hide the wife from stuff.  My mom's side is all on FB with full access but I am very much myself with them.  Plus, maybe she'll finally realize how awesome I am and feel guilty about all the pain and suffering she helped cause me in my earlier years.
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