Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
How Should I Respond to This?
My MIL sent me an email this morning. I think she is being passive aggressive. And I don't know how to respond. How would you respond?
She essentially said that she spoke with Blair and he told her I am fine. She hasn't called because she knows I don't want to be bothered. And she hopes once the babies are born she will see us.
I called Blair and suggested that maybe it is time we sit down with his Mom and StepDad and explain to her why we've been upset with some of her comments. And talk to her about how yes, we do live closer to them than my parents however Blair and I both agree that they will not see one set of grandparents more than the other. So that means she wont see them every day or maybe even every week. Well, he doesn't like confrontation and just not even happy I said that. I thought it would be a good way to clear the air. Get things on the table. It doesn't have to be nasty. And I was thinking we could do it in a restaurant so there wouldn't be any scenes, like she is notorious for.
So, I obviously have to reply to the email. Just don't know what to say. I feel like I need to watch every word with her, especially on email because she can get nasty. I obviously will be copying Blair because I refuse to have an email conversation with her without Blair seeing it. And I also refuse to have a conversation just her and me because she manipulated things very badly before our wedding and I will not put myself in that situation again.
Re: How Should I Respond to This?
Okay, Kristi, I respect you too much to sugar coat this:
There's not a goddamn thing you can do until Blair is willing to deal with even mild confrontation like you've laid out. I LOVE the idea of sitting down with them; sadly, I don't think having it in a restaurant will necessarily stop MIL from throwing a fit and bemoaning how you're an evil b!tch who's stolen her son away (or whatever nonsense she usually jumps to).
Until Blair is willing to stand up for you - HIS WIFE - and his future children... there's nothing you can do beyond a courteous "Thank you for your concern. I am doing well as Blair said and just trying to get as much rest as possible."