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oral sex is the new goodnight kiss
I often don't get the chance to work on stories like this but tonight we ran an interview with a director who is making waves with her shocking new doc. It's about changing attitudes towards sex by Teens & TWEENS (?) and she goes right to the source by talking to these young girls (not just experts) to find out what is happening and why. She's been on The View, GMA and Oprah's people are interested in having her on the show this fall. I thought I'd share
Here is a blurb from her website about the doc:
This book and documentary film by Sharlene Azam, are about the recent emergence of teenage prostitution rings in affluent suburbs. Attractive, white, high school girls - 13, 14 and 15 years old - are having sex with up to 7 men a night, several times a week, so they can go shopping. Other girls are selling their virginity for $1000. These are not street prostitutes. "They are the prettiest girls from the most successful families," explains one expert. "Your daughter's best friend is recruiting her right out of your house, right under your nose," says Detective Randy Wickins of the Edmonton Vice Unit. Oral Sex Is The New Goodnight Kiss is a wake up call for parents, showing them girls who have been recruited, their mothers, their "friends" who recruited them (the new pimps), and the vice cops and experts who are trying to make sense of this new middle-class phenomenon.
I've heard about 'rainbow parties" and what not but the idea that young girls are trading sex and sexual favours for money is so disturbing. And they don't see anything wrong with it either. in the doc they say things like "well i'd sleep with him anyway so why not get money for it?"
I thought our story was going to be on the website today but it isn't up but you can see her on The View:
http://www.theview.tv/video/hot-topics-new-goonight-kiss
Here is her website: http://www.thenewgoodnightkiss.com/
thoughts?
Re: oral sex is the new goodnight kiss
Stories like this make me sad but I know they are true. I think our societies have gotten so far away from any sort of morals that the "moral of money" seems to be what's leading the way nowadays.
It just reminds me that we have to talk openly with our children no matter how young they are or how embarrassed or scared they may be. It reminds me that we have to make sure our children know they are worth more than a price tag.
Yep, have to agree with this one. Sex is a lot more casual these days than it used to be and oral sex..well meh..whatever, it doesn't seem to have the same value it did back in tha day. The kids don't think it's a big deal. And in reality, it's sad that they're starting so young and pimping themselves out. I'd worry most about the diseases. We still don't talk about sex enough with our kids..maybe if we did, they wouldn't need to do things like this. But what do I know.
I'm hoping that I'll be able to educate my son..my DH was sexual from a very early age, so I'm hoping to avoid that. But I'm also not naive enough to think that kids don't sneak around and get educated from their peers.
I don't know what the answer is. It's all about what your value system is. If there is no moral system being taught, then how can we expect our children to know the right and wrong thing to do? I'm not saying everything is black and white, and everyone's value systems are different. What is normal or "right" anyway? I live in a grey area, but other people are more black and white.
Now I'm rambling..anyway good topic. Teach your kids about sex early is the lesson here!
i've always said this (well my mom always said this) but the doc reinforces it as well - kids aren't doing this at night either. They can go off at lunch or after school and be home in time for dinner and homework with parents none the wiser.
I wish our story was online (it was supposed to be) because the filmmaker talks about what to watch out for and suggestions on what to do whichI think is very important. One of the reasons why the parents of these girls let them talk about it on camera (with faces NOT being blurred) was because when they found out about their daughters they thought they were alone and that it couldn't happen in their homes.
this was my biggest fear about having a daughter.
Teaching teen girls, I hear (ok, eavesdrop, and then sometimes they don't even bother to use discretion when talking amongst themselves) them talk about these things and I cringe.
I am SO going to make sure my kid understands how to respect her body and her image.
I've heard about this...and it scares the bejeebers out of me....
I posted a link to an article about this (and her documentary) a couple of weeks ago...
It is crazy, but I bet it's been going on for longer than we think. I find that kids don't talk to their parents about sex (or vice versa), and that is the scary part!
I think this documentary is a great wake-up call to a lot of people.
If we ever have kids, sex is going to be a regular topic, for open discussion. DH and I deal with a lot of issues related to this in our jobs, so it would be only natural to have open conversations (making sure they know all of the risks involved, etc.) about it in our home life too.
This scares the bejeezus out of me too!
A while ago there was some trouble at my old junior high where it was found that girls were charging guys for oral sex. It was happening on the bus on the way to school in the morning and at lunch time.
Some people are fooled into thinking that strict curfews prevent this from happening but the truth is, where there is a will, there is a way. Not like you can stop your kids from leaving the house to go to school.
The best defense is open communication with your children.
This is totally not a "new" thing... this has been going on for a few years!
I actually know of a family of friends of mine whos daughter was doing this...
the girl then approached her friends and asked if she was interested; and that girl went to her parents!
I have not really kept up with it, but just been aware of it
This is definately a different world we are living in and it is just getting worst!