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This might sound petty...
...but I need to vent.
For my friends and family who know me well, they know I've had a baby boy name picked out forever now. It might sound a bit weird that H and I arent TTC but I've always wanted to give my kids persian names since I knew they'd have a pretty americanized last name so it would be the only thing they would have from my side of the family. Theres a lot of persian girl names that I like but boy names that I like are hard to come by so when H said he liked my favorite boy name I was over the moon! We even picked out a middle name for our future boy.
Anyway over the wkend, I'm on facebook and I find out that a former family friend of ours is pregnant with a baby boy and they're using my baby boy name! It's not a very common name (even in the persian community) and said former family friend knew that was a name I had liked! The reason said person is no longer a family friend is because they pulled a really stupid petty stunt right before my wedding which really hurt my feelings and my parents so I just decided I was done with them.
I'd really like to think that this wasnt intentional but I'm really bummed. As much as I love the name, I feel like if we do end up pregnant with a boy I cant use the name anymore. =(
Re: This might sound petty...
That does kind of suck. Finding a name you really like and DH likes is hard. but it sounds like you have already started to distance yourself from this girl, maybe when you do have kids she won't be in your circle at all, so the name is still yours..
What a bunch of jerks.
My family and I havent spoken to her family since a few weeks after the wedding when her mom sent a really nasty email to my mom saying that she "could not be happy for us and does not wish us the best in our marriage." I've just never gotten around to defriending her on FB....
If this was a cousin or close friend I could see why this might be a problem but a former family friend wouldn't keep me from using a name that G and I loved.
Crappy of her to do this if is was on purpose.
jaw drops to floor. OMG.
Oh take her off your FB right now. She and her mom aren't worth anymore of your time.
Considering that she sent that, I would have no problem naming my child the same name. How rude!
Anyways, even if you were friends I wouldn't change the name you picked out.
My sil and bil picked out the name Jackson before they even got married. They told everyone this before they even got pregnant. They find out a close friend of theirs is trying at the same time they are and the friend said if it's a boy they were going to use Jackson. Sil says to them that's the name we picked out before we were married. Keep in mind this would be the friends 4th child and already has boy. Friend laughs and says well who ever gets pregnant first with a boy gets to use the name.
Sil was really bummed out and hopes she gets pregnant first. Well lo and behold the friend gets pregnant first and then my sil and then both find out they are having boys. So friend says what are you going to name him since we are using Jackson. Sil turned around and told her that they weren't changing their minds since they picked out the name year and years ago. Friend was a little shocked but didn't really say anything. Almost 2 years later, both joke about the two Jacksons. Both see each other quite often as well.
Yeah, that was rude of them to pick that name , especially if they did it on purpose. That's actually pretty dumb. To name your kid something JUST BECAUSE you know it would p!ss someone else off. If the parents are that petty, I can't imagine the sad life the poor kid will have to live. What a sad way to start life.
For you, I think the fact the you guys aren't friends anymore that you'll be pretty safe using the name you love. It's your child and that's all that matters. If they say anything, which they shouldn't, than just tell them to FRO. They have no say in what happens in your family and their opinion means very little since their idiots.Don't let them ruin it for you. I know its irksum, but we all know your son will be WAYYY cuter anyway and totall deserve the name more.
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?She & her mom are such buttholes.
You should still name your future son the name you picked out. ?Who cares what they think!
When I was pregnant with T, my pregnant 17 yr old cousin (who bugs the crap outta me) got wind of what we were planning on naming him...she was 3 months ahead of me & guess what she named her son?
yep, same name we had picked out! ?I was so irritated! ?But as MH pointed out, we hardly ever see her, so it didn't make a difference. ?He was right and eventually I got over it.
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After 2 rounds of IVF & 2 rounds of FET, we were blessed with identical twin girls!
Who knows if I'm late on this or not but eff that biotch. Let's tar and feather her. Use the name.
My friends and I called dibs on names when we were like 15. I think most of them have changed but it's against the rules to steal one. I think we would (to quote Tiff) go batsh!t crazy if one of us stole a name. It's like girlfriend code or something.