February 2009 Weddings
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Re: Thursday Confessions
Wow - yesterday my mom called and said they were going to bring me some stuff from home. (an old china-type hutch and some more boxes of my stuff.) Now, I am totally okay with them bringing me these things, but I didn't expect them to show up last night. (I thought maybe later this week.) So, DH was freaking out about my parent's showing up with 1 hour notice. We cleaned and such, and the house actually looked good by the time they arrived. But, now there is MORE stuff to go through.
Side note - looking back, it turned out just fine. I just felt bad last night that we had not much warning and DH was annoyed about more stuff showing up. However, my parents mean well and were nice about everything. The hutch is something my mom actually tracked down for free because I said we didn't have any where to put the endless array of crystal bowls, vases, pitchers, goblets, etc that we got for our wedding. DH even agrees this shoudl be useful. (P.S. They are about 1 hour away and also are farmers so they've only been here say 3 times since the wedding. They certainly don't show up all the time.)
DH and MIL got in an argument over dinner on Tuesday night and it got to the point where no one even realized I was in the rooom anymore so, I left and walked home alone (they live two blocks from us). We had things to do at our own house but, instead, he ended up staying there arguing for two hours and our stuff never got done. I was pissed!
Then, last night, she called him and started it up AGAIN and that lasted over an hour. I am SO angry that MIL does not respect that her son and I have a life together and our own home with things we need to get done. And, I'm pissed at DH for not telling her to knock it off and ending the argument (he's too darn stubborn when it involves his parents).
Now, my parents are coming into town this weekend and our condo is no where near as clean as it needs to be because I cannot do everything alone!!!! To top it off, I'm getting really upset that I am going to have to protect our child constantly from DH/MIL's ridiculous arguments. I would love to move further away from them to avoid some of this but, his parents are not self-sufficient at all and so, he'd just be driving back there to help them constantly which would make things even worse. I know I'm hormonal right now but, this is just ridiculous. (And, yes, I have voiced all of this and more to DH).
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Jen - you have every right to vent! I think we all probably get into stupid arguements about IL's (or something else if the IL's live too far away to argue about.) Come to think of it, most arguements are generally a waste of time, but they are part of life. Last night I certainly wasn't looking for an arguement, but my parent's surprise visit just prompted one:)
Hope you are feeling H and H now and that tonight is better. GL with the cleaning, I know I always feel a crazy need to have our place looking good when my parent's show up.
Thanks, Lisa. I'm absolutely getting over it (not worth it!). It would be easier if this wasn't a recurrent issue though. The crazy thing with the cleaning is that my parents house is never clean when we go there but, I want mine to look better. Kwim?
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Jen- wow...I have problems w/my MIL also. not quite as bad as you though.
I wish people I work w/would grow up! Just because you dont get your way you act like a 12 year old. Come on....I dont want to close for you the day before a holiday weekend get over it sorry. Its my decision. I do everything around your schedule never mine...
sorry I am having a rough morning here today.
also I am a bad mom....kelsey has been going swimming everynight this weekend and has not had a bath since Sunday night....eekk. tonight I am making sure she gets in. She swims so much then she falls asleep before I can even start to think about a bath.
Jen - That does totally suck about your MIL and her apparent love of the argument. It makes me glad that I don't live anywhere near my MIL, though she is more of the passiv aggressive type. You and DH should talk about things before the baby comes, because you don't want him/her seeing how they interact and thinking that is an appropriate parent/child relationship.
I don't have any good confession this week, except...that I totally love that show Hitched or Ditched. Jen, your post reminded me of this week's episode, where the dude totally didn't stand up to the mom and ended up not marrying the girl because the mom was f-ing crazy. Damn my love of bad reality TV...
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Jen that totally sucks and I would have been really pissed too. We don't live super close to in-laws or my family so we don't have issues thankfully. Yeah they have quirks that irritate me sometimes but nothing major. I'm grateful that both sides are really not intrusive at all. The only arguments seem to be between me and my mom occasionally but thats another story.
My confession is that I am having such a hard time with the eating right thing and exercising. I need motivation! I just feel like doing nothing when I get home from work.
Jen, I'm soooo sorry this has happened!! Good for you for talking to DH about it. Hopefully before Baby Boom arrives, changes will be made!!
Renea, I totally caught the tail end of Hitched or Ditched and yes it's one of my new guilty pleasures. That guy was a douchebag totally and that girl deserves soo much better!!
My confession is that DH has gone out of town with his parents. He left last night to join them up in Garner State Park. I'm working like a mad woman so I wouldn't really get to see him anyways, I just am having a pitty party. He's never been up there and I have and I guess it would be a good time for him. I just wish I could go too. He'll be coming back Saturday though so it won't be for long THANK GOD!! OH and I"m having to watch their animals too, well go over and let them out and all that stuff, not like I don't have anything better to do!!! UGGHHH I'm frustrated and pms'ing bad.
My aunt had surgery two days ago. They replaced(i think) her carotid artery with bovine veins. She had 80% blockage on her right side. The left side only has 50% so they are thinking with Lasix and stuff it will clear up in a few months. She is also having problems with her kidneys (shes diabetic). They are functioning at like 60-70% each i think? They also think that can be cleared up with medication, no worries about dialysis thank God! She's doing better after her surgery and is now in a regular room. Hopefully she might go home tomorrow if all is well. She needs to lose ALOT of weight and we are hoping that some dr's will approve her of gastric bypass. I know it's a scary as _hell procedure but if she doesn't lose weight she could seriously die from that.
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Meg - absolutely praying and thinking of your aunt.
I'm also sorry about DH being away. I'm sure it's totally tough working two jobs and then having DH be gone on a mini-vacay. I would also be having a pity-party. Easier said than done, but try to chanel your feelings into some productive task that you've been wanting to do and just haven't:) or, a nice long run.
As for me... I must confess that I DETEST my AF. My lovely gyno assured me it was safe to do continuous dosing on my bcp, so I haven't had AF in about 3 months. Fabulous. But, I figured it was time, and I'd forgotten how wretched I cramp up. Had to get up about 5:00 to take some more generic advil. Also, I've probably eaten about 20+ hershey kisses today. ugg.
Jena, that sux about your boss!!! Have you questioned her about it? i would tell the patient to "please hold." and then transfer their call to your manager adn let her deal with it
Lisa, I would LOVE to do something I"ve been putting off but I"m gonna be sooo busy working, that's seriously all I'll have time to do which sux. Oh well, i'll just bust my rump into getting as many sales as I can adn that will make me happy
And btw, my AF sux now that I've had the Mirena. My cramps are far more worse than they were with BCP. But i'm hoping after 4 more months my AF will almost be non existent 
Meg - I hope your aunt continues to do well. If she needs to lose a lot of weight, then a gastric bypass or stapling would probably be a good thing, but she would have to be fairly disciplined about it (and I have heard of some yucky side effects from a friend who had a stapling a year or so ago). But you're right, weight loss is going to be the best thing for her. Hope all goes well!
(and yes, the dude on Hitched or Ditched was a total d-bag
Well sometimes I do transfer the call to her bc i have no idea why or what she did..I don't now how much questioning I can do w/o her getting pissed and bitchy. ...oh well I guess. Today it just aggravated me bc I called the ins and they had processed the claim wrong, and i can almost guarentee that she ddin't call the ins to find out what was wrong. she is just lazy sometimes.....okay alot.