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So confused
I met with my new principal today to discuss next year and so he could show me around, etc. He was saying that because there is no one attached to this job (as in it's not a leave) that it will most likely become permanent the following year.
Well now... this makes me think that maybe we shouldn't TTC because they might not give it to me permanent in the 10/11 school year if I've just had a new baby or am preggo. But then again, if we wait until I'm permanent to TTC that means we would have a baby until 11/12 which is still so far away.
Augh, I'm so conflicted. Ideally I would like to be preggo right now because then I would have the baby in March (and convince them to give me permanet for the following year) go back to work in September after six months and DH would stay at home with the baby for the next six months.
DH is a little frustrated with me because he really wants a baby but also wants me to be permanent. I guess we'll have to figure out what's most important.
Re: So confused
Ok...that sucks!!
I don't know how things work where you are, but things are always up in the air here. We lost two teaching positions this year....out of the blue because our # went down....but now they're going back up, so we may gain it back. I just think that if you wait to TTC until everything gets settled, you could be forever! There's never a perfect time to TTC...something always comes up. Not to say that being full time would help a lot, but it could be a while off!!
Again, I am speaking from the Ontario education system perspective, but I have never seen someone passed over for a job because they are PG. If you think about it, we work in the pink collar ghetto. Our profession is over run by women and many are of child bearing age. If they only gave jobs to people who weren't PG or had little ones, they would have very few to choose from.
And as Ms Mellor said, #s at schools change constantly. You could lose a position in June, only to gain it back in August, and then lose it again in Sept. (well, it happens here anyway). I would talk to your partner and decide on whatever TTC plan is best for you guys and then cross your fingers and hope full-time works out as well.
Tough situation to be in. I have a friend who is going through something similar (only it is her FI who is waiting to be permanent and they aren't TTC but rather getting married and buying a house). They kept putting off getting engaged because they wanted to wait until her was permanent until they got engaged and bought a house. Years have gone by. Finally they decided to stop waiting for their life to start together and got engaged earlier this year.
I think that you can never predict what will happen with your work. What if you never did go permanent? Would putting off TTC be worth it?
Sounds like a tough situation. I hate when I have plans all figured out and then life throws me a curve ball. I don't know much about the education system except what I hear from my mom who's a teacher here in ON, but from what she's been saying, even permanent ppl are losing their positions. So even if you were to get a spot it's not gauranteed that it would actually be permanent, KWIM?
If you're ready to TTC on all other levels I say go for it! Good luck!
And this is why I don't even want to think about kids!
SO stressful!!! If it is any help (and I am sure there may be some flames coming my way for this one), I have a hard time with new permanent teachers who get pregnant right away. Some poor schmuck has to fill in for them on an LTO, with no benefits, and no real hope of a permanent position in the forseeable future. I've seen it happen so many times, and I've been there as that LTO teacher...it sucks.
I also have a hard time with crap teachers - there are so many good ones who can't even get their foot in the door. It's just not right. (This doesn't mean that I am calling you a crap teacher! Just showing that there are a few things in the education side of the house that drive me bananas).
*Steps off soap-box*
In all seriousness though, I hope you guys figure it out. Definitely not an easy decision.