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Update from yesterday's DH vent
So initially the talk did NOT go well. At all. Possibly the shining moment was when he said "my dad would never say anything like that" and I replied "he has and he does." and he said "no, he's never said anything like that to me. He just wouldn't do that" and I said, "so I'm a liar?" and he replied "I didn't say that" and I said "yes you did. I told you why I hate having your dad come over, why I don't like being around him and you said no way he would do that. So either he didn't and I'm lying or he did. You can't have it both ways."
Eventually we came around to a compromise of sorts. Not sure how I keep up my promise to start over. I'm still on edge so open to suggestions since we're approaching six years married and it's a lot to get over for me.
He also finally seems to get how it sounds when he uses the "kmap says" instead of "we think". So cross your fingers there.
And he's going to go in an extra evening next week and not invite anyone out so I can have my down time. I think the fact that I broke into tears when we were done talking made him realize just how on the edge I am and that it's just not worth it.
And the good news is he said "I really don't want to keep going through this for the next 20 years of our marriage, we need to figure it out". Since I'll admit there have been times I've figured it was going to be the thing that broke us and led to divorce.
Thanks everyone, for listening and the support.
And yes, a Calgary GTG would be good. I'm up for anything.
Re: Update from yesterday's DH vent
I'm glad a compromise was attained and he finally sort of sees where you are coming from. And you get some serious down time, yay!
The GTG can be a let's unpack my new home :P Or coffee I guess....?
Sounds like it was a positive talk and you both got some things out that needed to be said. I hope things improve from here on. Sounds like a stressful situation.
I actually like unpacking when it's not my house so I'm good for that. Or I'll play with your kids and chat while you unpack. That still counts as helping
And yes, it was stressful. I would find reasons not to visit with him because I knew he'd have more fun not worrying about me and it turns out he was looking for reasons to go when I couldn't because he knew I'd enjoy myself more at home. So, yeah. Stress.
And now I'll go to the family bar-b-q on Sunday so they don't have to speculate on a possible divorce again :P