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Personal question for those with / having boys...
Did you / will you have your son circumcised? DH and I just found out we're having a boy and are now faced with making this decision!! I know this is debated a lot on the Bump boards but it seems to me that the popularity of circumcision is different in Canada versus the U.S. so I wanted to get a Canadian perspective.
Feel free to comment with your reasons for or against but I will do a clicky poll just in case people aren't comfortable discussing it.
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Re: Personal question for those with / having boys...
When we were TTC I thought about this, and at first I assumed we would have our son circumsized. When I was in high school uncircumsized guys were thought to be "gross" and the girls often speculated about who was/wasn't, and I didn't want my son to be teased. However, the more I thought about it, the more I felt bad about the reasoning behind that decision- to cut off a natural part of his body so he could avoid teasing seemed so shallow. I was kind of at a crossroads- I didn't really want to do it, but I didn't want to not do it, either. I decided to take the easy way out and left the decision to my husband, claiming that since he knew more about "the equipment" that he could make a more informed decision.
To my surprise, he was strongly against circumcision- so much so that if I had wanted to circumsize our son that we'd have had a huge argument about it. My husband is circumsized so I had assumed he'd think that was the normal thing to do, but he didn't. He said that he really believed that cutting off a part of his son's penis would be wrong.
Since I had already decided to go with whatever my husband had decided and since part of me agreed with him, we agreed to leave things au naturel. However, there was still a small part of me that was afraid that he would be teased. So I began to research it and was surprised to find that circumcision rates are quickly falling in Canada- while most boys in BC were circumsized when we were born, today most boys aren't. I can't remember the stats I found but it was something like 65% of boys born today in BC aren't circumsized. Once I read that, it really sealed the deal for me- why put our son through that to have him be in the minority? The shower room teasing I was afraid of suddenly turned the other way- I imagine now that if we did choose to circumsize, that the other boys would tease him and he'd wonder why we chose to do that to him. I feel like he couldn't help but be angry with us, knowing that we chose to cut off a part of his body and make him the odd man out...
I don't know. It's such a heated discussion sometimes but I'm happy with our decision.
Since there is no real medical reason for circumsion, we decided against it. Some of my friends who have boys tried to convince us that if we didn't have it done then DS would end up having bladder or other infections from not being able to keep the area under the foreskin clean. They were basing this on cases they knew of or had heard of. DS is now 3.5 yrs old and he has NEVER had any problems. His pediatrician also agreed with our decision even though he gets paid to do them.
I think it comes down to personal opinion.
This has been *exactly* my sister's experience with both of her boys. As long as you teach them as they get older how to keep themselves clean...there should be no issues.
We were on the fence before having DS (and knowing that he was a boy) and I basically said since I didn't have the parts I would probably go with what DH suggested.
However, DS was born with significant kidney issues and when the pediatric urologist aand nephrologist sked what we were going to do we asked for their opinion and they both said that it would be better for him to have it done. It has made a significant difference for some of the procedures he has had to have done (so I have been told).
Otherwise I think that we would have left him as he was.
I defaulted to my husband on this one... he has said that he wants it done basically for the cleanliness reason. I'm not really partial one way of another so decided to let him choose and would support it.
I am learning though that uncircumcised is the more common now (at least when discussing with friends/family)
I agree with Betty 100%. Plus there was a nestie on one of the boards here that I was a regular of, who had it done but the doctor made a mistake and took more than the skin off (part of the penis was cut off). The newborn had to have surgery to have it reattached and he was to have more surgeries in the future and they weren't sure whether he'd have a functioning penis ever again. Seeing what ordeal they went through broke my heart and scared me so much.
I am personally against surgery if it's not necessary.
While I know that weird things happen (like Gabriella's post, above) there are plenty of circs done everyday with no problems whatsoever. We always hear the scary stories, right? No one brags about the routine stories.
Like you all said, its a personal choice... but I don't personally feel like I mutaliated my son or that he will be picked on because he is circd. Daddy is, so baby is, and that was it for us. I left it to DH, and that was his decision.
Ditto this. DH decided he would be, and I was fine with his decision. Just a side note because no one has mentioned it - it is not covered by OHIP. I paid $358 to have DS circumsized between hospital/doctors fees - something to consider.