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Becki - Re: Ferber method
So we did this with P at about 7 months. Before that he slept in bed with us and wouldn't sleep unless he was lying next to someone. It took about 7 or 8 days till it "worked".
For the first two days we put him down and he cried on and off for a little over an hour. We went back in at 3 min, 3 min, 5 min, 5 min, 10 min and then every 10 min till he finally fell asleep. We comforted him but did not get him up.
From day 2 to 6 he fell asleep after only 30 min and after day 7 and everyday after that he falls asleep in 5 min or less and he doesn't really cry anymore.
It was hard letting him CIO the first two days but I just kept reminding myself if I gave into it and picked him up all the crying was for nothing.
It actually was much easier than I thought it would be and it is SO much better with him sleeping in the crib. He sleeps better and longer and so do I.
He still wakes up around 1ish for a bottle and again around 4:30 but I just give him the bottle and go back to sleep. I think (fingers crossed) that he may be growing out of the 1 am bottle as sometimes he doesn't wake up for it.
I do agree with Brandy - although I would love,love, love to sleep through the night again I'm not going to try and get him off the night bottles. He will only be a baby once and soon I will miss these days. He will wean himself off soon enough.
BTW - I have the Ferber Method book if you want to borrow it. I have to confess I only read the necessary parts.
Re: Becki - Re: Ferber method
BIP- I always love your advice Amy. I'd like to get my hands on a copy of that book when it's my time to go through all this.
BTW, when P slept in ben with you did you use anything to keep from rolling over or smothering him? I take naps with R on our bed and sometimes she wiggles herself too close to me, I'm afraid I won't notice if she buries her face and can't breathe.
When P slept in bed with me I had the bassinet on the side of the bed to make sure he didn't fall out and then I slept on my side with him in the crook of my arm. I never had anything there to make sure I didn't roll over on him.
Can you believe I slept on my side for 7 months and never moved? My hip used to be so sore. Even in the deepest of sleep I never rolled over on him. But I made sure never to drink and alcohol or take anything that would make me sleepy.
One time I did pull up the blanket when I got cold and woke up to realize it was really close to P's face. Freaked me out! After that I just made sure to dress warm and got rid of the blanket.
Anyone who wants to is more than welcome to borrow the book. It was super expensive. Someting close to $30. I think it would be awesome to pass it around.
That does sound a lot better than just letting them cry. But than there's this small part of me that thinks "I am the only one here at night, so DH wouldn't have to deal with it at all, and I'm not sure I could do it by myself"
And Isabel slept with us until basically Joaquin was born. We thought we were going to have the hardest time getting to sleep on her own. But it only took about a week and half to get her really use to it.
Thanks so much for sharing Amy. Last night went really well, not nearly as bad as I thought it would be. Fortunately, going to bed is not an issue for him. When we first put him down he fusses a little and then he's asleep.
A and I agreed that we'd feed him once around 2, but not before that. He woke up a little before one and was fussing alot, but no screaming. It went on for maybe 15 mins and then A gave him his pacifier. More fussing and then he was back to sleep. He woke up again around 2:30, I nursed him, he was asleep after 10 mins and then slept until 6:30
I would be really happy to get down to one feeding a night and it seems very do-able.
Amy: I
that you layerd up to protect P.
Irma: C use to do the same thing to me! I think they just want to feel your warmth. Freaked me out.
Becki: I'm glad everything is working out. C has a blankie. If he's fussing (not hungry) we'll give it to him, if it's out of reach. He usually sucks on it for a sec & falls right back to sleep.