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I left my screaming child at nursery this morning :(
Yesterday was her first day and I was able to slip out and it went so well! I picked her up in the afternoon and they said there was no crying or anything. However today, she caught sight of me opening the door and went hysterical. Her poor teacher had to hold her literally kicking and screaming while I left. I feel really bad. 
I know there's a transition period but I think it's against a mother's nature to hear her child make that noise. For those who have DD/DS in nursery school/full time daycare, how long did it take before you could just drop them off without a scene? Any tips for making this transition easier?
I know there's a transition period but I think it's against a mother's nature to hear her child make that noise. For those who have DD/DS in nursery school/full time daycare, how long did it take before you could just drop them off without a scene? Any tips for making this transition easier?
Re: I left my screaming child at nursery this morning :(
That sounds rough.
Did she stop after a while or was she upset the whole time?
I cannot speak from experience as a mom but my mom has a daycare and she says that usually it takes 3 days and by the 4th day things get much better. And even usually on those first days it's not a whole day upset thing mainly the first 5-10 minutes.
Like I said, not from mom experience but HTH
Aww, I am sorry, it is so hard. Alex started daycare in January and for us, the transition took a few weeks. Alex still fusses and cries when I drop him off, but it's only for about 10-30 seconds after I leave the room. It's rare taht I can walk out and he'll just continue playing. Usually, the teacher has to pick him up for a bit, and he'll cry for 10-30 seconds.
Today, he started in a new room (moved from the infant room to the toddler room) and there were more tears than usual, even though he's been visiting that room for a week now.
No matter what, it's hard.
I am sure once she calms down, she'll have a fantastic day. I read that you are not supposed to sneak out because they lose trust in you, but I know that has worked for some people. Good luck!
ps: when are you moving??
Ugh, that's hard! I remember how that was.
The first week Ethan cried like crazy when I left- I could hear him all the way down the hall and sporadically throughout my work day (daycare was at my work). The next few weeks he cried when I left but calmed down quickly and was happy all day. For a few weeks after that he didn't cry when I left, but he'd chase after me and demand another hug or something. Now, three months after he started, he's fine- runs to play with his friends and blows me a kiss goodbye.
The one advice the daycare gave me was not to sneak out- they said that, in their experience, it's harder in the short term for the kid to see you leave, but better in the long term because they are more secure in knowing that you're not going to sneak away when they least expect it. They always encouraged me to hug and kiss Ethan goodbye and let him see me leave, and even though it was hard to hear him wail as I shut the door, I do think it was probably best.
I'm sorry, Kat. That's gotta be tough. I can't imagine.
I know what you mean about the "mother's nature to hear her child make that noise."
Right this minute, I'm letting DD CIO for a nap that she woke too early from - she's clearly still exhausted but wailing in her crib. It's killing me.