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How would you handle this?
So for the most part my mom and I get along really well. We haven't really fought in years. So on the fourth of July she said something to me that i thought was hurtful/rude. I said "that was mean" after she said it. She didn't really respond. I was upset and left. She was all "oh you guys are leaving already?" I don't know if she didn't get it or pretended not too.
So I hadn't talked to her since Saturday. We usually talk daily. So I decided to be the bigger person and call her on my lunch break today. I told her she hurt my feelings and she turned it around and said I was too senstive and made another comment that made it into my fault. I started crying and got off the phone. I don't want to be a drama queen and distance myself, although thats kind of what I want to do. I usually spend a lot of time with them, but I just need a break. Also I usually go to yoga with my mom every Wednesday. She picks me up and we go together. I really don't want to deal with her, but I want to go to yoga. I was thinking driving seperately, but then what? I am trying not to be a drama queen but I really think she owes me an apology. Any advice. Sorry that was long and rambling.
Re: How would you handle this?
I've got no advice. I wish I did, but you tried and only wound up more hurt.
If you want to go to yoga, can you see if they have a different class at a different time? Or just drive yourself and tell her that you have other things to do on the way there/home that you can't ride together.
I just looked on the website and the other classes that the lady I go to teaches are all times I can't go
and I prepaid for all of it so if i skip I am losing out on money, plus i really like going to yoga.
Yeah I am definatley going to drive myself, it's just akward because it's a small yoga room.
Sorry. My advice would have been to tell her that she hurt you, but unfortunately you did and she didn't get it. Maybe if you distance yourself a bit, she'll realize and start taking you seriously when you say that she hurt your feelings rather than blow you off and turn it around on you. I hate when people do that by the way.
Oh and go to yoga...with or without her.
Sounds like she hurt you pretty bad. I agree that distancing yourself would probably be best. Drive yourself and if she asks just tell her you had some errands to run, like pp suggested. Don't skip out on yoga...sounds like you need some relaxation now.
yeah your right Paula, its not like I have to talk to her. I'll just show up right before and leave right after, I definatley want/need to go. We do have a 24 hr CVS lol but I will have to think of some sort of excuse.
If you need me as cop-out, let me know what time I should call you. LOL
Thank you Paula
I know you girls are right.
I kind of want to email my mom to say what I need to say without getting emotional (which I tend to do in person and on the phone when dealing with a confrontation) but part of me wants to just leave it alone and give it some time and distance. I'm not sure.