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I need your help. I can't get over this. (long)
So my friend A told me something yesterday about friend C and I just can't get it out of my head. It's really bothering me.
Backstory. C has a baby boy that is a week younger than Mary. When baby boy was 3 months old, C was outside for a few hours washing horses with baby boy in the front carrier and he got sunburned on the top of his head and arms. He looked like a lobster. Why she didn't have a hat on him? I have no clue. Why was he in the carrier? No clue. Why couldn't he have been watched by the same person watching baby sister? No clue.
So anyway...then friend A tells me yesterday that C had put a sleeping baby boy on their bed for a nap. Turned around to do something and then heard a thud. Apparently baby C had fallen off their bed (which is higher than a standard bed). Turns out he has broken his collar bone.
I know none of this was done intentionally and she loves her kids, but COME ON. Why on Earth would you put him on the bed and leave him? His nursery is 50 feet away from thier room. Why not put him there? Why not at least put pillows around him? The why's just keep pouring out of me and I am so angry this happened to him.I just don't get it. I need to be calmed down.
Re: I need your help. I can't get over this. (long)
I'd be pretty worked up too. Poor, poor baby! Sounds like she doesnt have much common sense.
Ok I put L down and can type more.
She's lucky all he has is a broken bone. I REALLY hope this was a reality check for her and she is more careful now. This is her 2nd kid right? I know some moms who do some things that I consider to be highly questionable (no, not on here!) and it really worries me sometimes. It seems that some people are not nearly as careful with their 2nd baby for some reason.
I feel the same way Becki. Like they think the 1st survived so they dont' have to be so protective?
But I remember back in the day when I was on BOTB a lot there was a woman on there that put her baby on her bed for a nap. He somehow fell between the footboard and the matress and suffocated and died.
I really think C got lucky with just a broken collar bone. I don't know what she was thinking. She does SO MANY questionable things. It's so hard. (when her first was Mary's age they were at my house and she chewed a chip and gave it to her baby. Did the same thing that night with a piece of meat)
Ok that's just dumb on her part.
Yeah...I know it was an accident and that's why I am mad at myself for getting so worked up. She does feel awful. She says she is a horrible mother. And actually...I haven't even talked to her about it yet. I would never say anything to her to make herself feel worse. I'm just venting. The two things together are just really getting to me.
That night she said she's like a mama bird.
Not that it's the same situation but I can kind of relate. When I took C for his 4 month check up & the dr informed me I wasn't feeding him enough I felt like such a failure. Even though all of her actions haven't been the best (feeding him meat/chips is stupid/gross) but keep in mind she might not have been clearly thinking. She truly needs friends right now. I bet she feels horrific. thank god he didn't die because of a careless decision.
That's tough. I'm always thinking about mistakes and how often they happen. Most the time they're pretty benign, but it only takes once for it to be something serious. No matter how hard we try there is always a chance that something can go terribly wrong.
I'm glad the baby is ok.
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