May 2009 Weddings
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Church wedding coordinator advice

Not sure how to get the word out about this, so am trying this community post to attempt to warn couples about the experience I had.

My husband and I were married at Bethlehem Lutheran Church in Minneapolis.  The church itself is georgeous and out of a fairy tale with how it looks.  However, the wedding coordinator we had was TERRIBLE.  She barely ran the rehearsal so I was freaking out going into the wedding day.  Then on the day itself she didn't do ANYTHING.  She didn't check on me once, didn't come get me when it was time for the ceremony to start, and it forced me to rely very heavily on my friends and family.  It was extremely stressful and borderline almost ruined the ceremony.  Without my friends/family around to help it would have for sure.

If you are going to use that church, I would HIGHLY encourage you to get someone else you know and trust who can be a go-to person because the staff at this church just simply don't care.  It's an extra couple hundred bucks for them in cash and that is clearly all they are in for. 

I called to complain after the fact and was treated very coldly but the woman in church of weddings.  Bethlehem Lutheran Church may be beautiful, but they certainly don't care about making your day special or respecting your wishes.

Another thing is they had my wedding time wrong and scheduled a funeral for the morning of the wedding.  A hearse was parked outside an hour before our ceremony started!  There were people everywhere so it was hard to have privacy getting ready.  Beware of this at any church you choose and ask the question up front if you are the only event scheduled for that day. 

The wedding day is supposed to be fun and happy - don't let other people ruin it for you and make sure you surround yourself with family and friends whom you trust and will make sure your wishes are carried out.  :)

Re: Church wedding coordinator advice

  • Ummm, we are all married and not located in Minneapolis.
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  • Thanks, Sarah...I was thinking the same thing!
  • I don't understand why people don't think before they post things randomly on the internet...
  • imageRockThisB!tch:
    I don't understand why people don't think before they post things randomly on the internet...

    I understand perfectly: she's an idiot.

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    imageRockThisB!tch:
    I don't understand why people don't think before they post things randomly on the internet...

    I understand perfectly: she's an idiot.

     Wow, that's incredibly supportive and so sweet to boot.  All she was trying to do is help people out by sharing an experience that she had.  I also agree that she should have placed this post on a different board... possibly a board on TheKnot that is specifically geared toward that area.  However, maybe one of you could have suggested that instead of just attacking her.  This is supposed to be a space where all of us can come and feel safe to express ourselves without being viciously attacked by others. 

    I'm sorry, I know this is my first post on this board and I didn't mean to start out like this, but I hate seeing things like this when there is truly no need for it.

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  • Attacking her?  Only one person said something TO her and it wasn't even mean.
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     Wow, that's incredibly supportive and so sweet to boot.  All she was trying to do is help people out by sharing an experience that she had.  I also agree that she should have placed this post on a different board... possibly a board on TheKnot that is specifically geared toward that area.  However, maybe one of you could have suggested that instead of just attacking her.  This is supposed to be a space where all of us can come and feel safe to express ourselves without being viciously attacked by others. 

    I'm sorry, I know this is my first post on this board and I didn't mean to start out like this, but I hate seeing things like this when there is truly no need for it.

    What I just read:  boo hoo, everybody has to be nice, because this is the internet and that's what it's for!!!111!!!

    The board is clearly entitled MAY 2009 WEDDINGS.  Telling her whole long sob story on this board was completely brainless and therefore required no support.

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