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Sigh
I've been away for a while, just trying to take a break from here.
So, DH got laid off. It sucked. Everywhere he went to try and find work they told him that they should have work in Sept. We really can't wait till sept for him to get work. Friday he was told that there is work in Alberta for 6 months. Yesterday he called and got all the details. It is almost $3/hr more, it's 4 more hrs per week and every other friday is a 10 hr day. It made total sense for him to go.
His plane is taking off as we speak. I just have to keep telling myself that it's only 6 months, we can do it. Last night was rough. We were laying in bed crying for a good 2 hours. And I've only seen DH cry twice before, he just doesn't cry. There were so many things running through my mind that he was missing but I didn't want to tell him in case he wasn't thinking of them. I didn't want to make him even sadder.
What if Austin says dada for the first time and he isn't here? He will miss Austin's first steps, first words, so many firsts. He will miss our anniversary. He says he will be home for Austin's birthday and Christmas but flights are expensive!!! I love how when Dave got home from work Austin would see him and get all excited, his eyes would light up and reach for his daddy to pick him up. Will he notice that his daddy isn't here? Will he remember his daddy in 4 months??
Austin is staying with my parents tomorrow night and I am flying out to alberta Thursday and we are doing a vacation together before he starts work. (today he flew out to find somewhere to live and take all the safety trainings he needs before he can start work) Then I'm coming home Saturday night.
This is going to be a rough few weeks.
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Kriz...
I as you remember... it wasnt long ago I was in a similar position; being alone and sad of dh missing events.
I am here to talk or to hang out with whenever...
While you are going through it it seems like some days are like months long and other days fly by; in the end.... it will pass by and you will think what was the big deal.
Just know I am here with open ears to listen to anything you might want to get off your chest!
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I'm sorry. Is he going to be away for the entire 6 months other then Christmas? That sucks. My husband works away from home a lot but it's usually gone 3 weeks back for 5-6 so we get breaks which are nice. It's still tough though, trying to plan things can become difficult because I want him there but you also want to get things done.
Maybe you could find an inexpensive video camera on kigigi or craigslist so you can tape the firsts? Not the same as being there but it's something at least. And webcams are inexpensive. If you can each get one then you could talk over skype each night (bonus is it's free) and he'll seem closer.
It truly is going to be a tough couple of months.
But, you are a strong woman and I completely believe you are going to be amazing at dealing with this situation.
Will he have internet access? I'd get a couple of cheap webcams. I've got a Rocketfish (cost 60 bucks) and Dani talks to my parents almost every night on Skype through the webcam. My parents bought it for us because they wanted her to know their faces, because they don't get to see her all the time. When she sees them on the screen she lights up. Maybe Austin and Dave can interact this way a few times a week?
Does your digital camera have video mode? Try to capture all those moments (they may not be the exact FIRST time, but at least he'll see the second or third... just like how he may have demonstrated to you at home during the day and then DH would come home and you'd show him)...
Hugs. It's not going to be easy. Hopefully we can help you through it!
Wow - tough situation for you guys. Obviously it's going to be hard, but the PPs gave you some great suggestions.
When D was working out of town (and I know it's a different situation, because I got to see him on weekends), I actually found chatting on Skype or messenger was kind of fun. It seemed like we talked more than we normally would if we were just hanging out together at home.
It will he hard, no doubt, but I hope you can find some fun ways of keeping in touch and keeping the lonliness to a minimum.
I am sorry it has to be this way right now. I think it is wonderful that you and your DH are making such a difficult decision and making a commitment to work through this for your family's financial stability. It really shows how dedicate you are to each other and the well being of your family.
I really like Nat's webcam idea - it sounds like a fairly inexpensive way to keep in touch with dada!
Enjoy your vacation with your DH!
Thanks for the great idea ladies! We are waiting to see where he ends up living and if he has internet before we invest in webcams or something like that. He's keeping his cell number from here for now and we have 1,000 long distance minutes between us each month, plus now we both have blackberries so we can use the BB messenger for free.
Thankfully our family is great at helping us out when we need it so it shouldn't be that hard.
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I'm so sorry, that really sucks. Wouldn't it be fabulous to be 18 again and not have be responsible and worry about crap like this? I hope you guys can get a webcam set up so you can actually see each other. And I agree with PP, it almost seems like DH and I talk more when we're apart for a bit than if we're in the same house.
Westjet gets some crazy sales every once in a while - sign up to be on their mailing list, you may be able to get a 200 flight to Calgary.
Good luck, hang in there and enjoy your mini-vacation with DH!
I'm sorry Kristin, what a tough situation to deal with. Sounds like a mature decision and what's best for your family right now (even though it sucks to have to live through it).
I think the web cam suggestions are great, I'm sure he'll find a place with internet to set it up.
Will he be home for Christmas?
*hugs*
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