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Yikes...16 and Pregnant
I fell asleep with the TV on the other night and woke up to this fantastic piece of televised brilliance.
I only caught a few minutes before thankfully passing out again, but the segment I did see had the girl and her mom at the OB's office. The OB asked about breast feeding and the girl and her mom both said no because she didn't want her boobs to sag.
It shouldn't surprise me - clearly a 16 year old who gets pregnant isn't making the best choices, but it bothered me that mom of the year was encouraging this thinking. You could tell the OB wanted to smack them, but was being as nice as she could be.
Re: Yikes...16 and Pregnant
Gee, wonder how she ended up with a kid who's knocked up at 16.
I'd be hesitant to say that a 16 yr old who is pregnant is not making the best choices. The number of 16 yr olds who are sexually active is huge! Just because a young girl gets pregnant doesn't mean she is irresponsible.
I watched this show to and foudn it quite interesting. Imagine the stress of being a teenage mom? She wouldn't have the life experience we had, she wouldn't have the friends or social network of moms to draw from, she very likely wouldn't have a supportive partner (though we know that is possible not matter what your age).
She just seemed to be so uninformed (e.g. breastfeeding, how much work it would be). But then again, how would she know? I am kinda looking forward to seeing more episodes...
Her mom, however, I think was a total basket case. When they got into a fight in the car and her mom hit her? WTH! So unacceptable!
I have very dear friends who had surprise pregnancies in their 20s and I would still say they weren't making the best choices - as would they. If you don't want to be pregnant, you need to take precautions.
I was sexually active at 16, but I was smart enough to use protection and to know that no single form is 100%.
I didn't see the hitting part- probably for the best!
Yikes! That is highly judgemental. I am going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume that you are not trying to paint all young moms (or their mothers with the same brush).
All it takes to get pregnant is a sperm meeting an egg. That can happen on BCP, with a condom, or other forms of protection. It can happen to young girls and those in their 20s, 30s, 40s. Just because it is unplanned does not mean the woman is bad or that her mother is either.
I was thinking more along the lines that if her mom thinks questions about her pregnancy are too gross to ask, then she probably wasn't having good conversations with her daughter about being sexually active and the need to use proper protection.
The teen pregnancy rate where I'm currently at is rumoured to be the highest rate in BC. Not sure if that's true or not, but this year alone in our highschool, out of a grad class of about 30, 3 girls have babies. The conversations you overhear about who has to travel to the nearest city to get abortions, and who has to miss class to go to the clinic for a pregnancy test is unbelievable. In such a small town you really get to know some of the parents and the situations these girls grow up in. It's really sick.
I agree. I doubt her mom talked to her about protection at all based on how little she wanted to talk about simple things like breastfeeding.
At the risk of being flamed...I'm sorry but I completely disagree with the thought that you can get pregnant at 16 and NOT be making bad choices.
I realize that it only takes one sperm and one egg to get pregnant, but it drives me INSANE when people are condoning of 16 year olds having sex. I am not so crazy to think that we should only preach abstinence, and I think that birth control should be available to kids, but 16 year olds should not be having sex. I realize that a huge number of them are, but that is just too young. I don't even think you have to wait to get married. I didn't. But I was 21 when I had sex for the first time, old enough to know how to protect myself against disease and pregnancy. A 16 year old having sex is making a bad choice.
I just do not believe that ANYONE gets pregnant accidentally. Okay, maybe some people, but I would say that it only counts as being accidental if someone is using multiple forms of birth control (e.g. condoms AND b/c pills), using them PROPERLY and still get pregnant. I'm guessing this would be extremely rare. If you DON'T want to get pregnant, protect yourself. If you aren't protecting yourself, then you can't say it was an accident. Everyone knows that b/c pills are not 100%, and neither are condoms, but if you are using both, it is about as close as you can get. Most people aren't using both.
sounds like you were responsible about it. My issue isn't quite so much with the age, as the responsibility. I think we can all agree that how responsible a person is has nothing to do with their age. If you are smart enough and responsible enough at 16 to take the appropriate precautions, and to deal with the emotional ramifications of having sex (which I think a lot of girls aren't educated about), then fine. Otherwise, you shouldn't be having sex, at 16, or 18, or even 25.