May 2009 Weddings
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surprises? disappointments?
We are almost to the point where ALL of us have been married for two months. How has everyone's first month or two gone? Have there been any surprises? Any disappointments? Anything that you learned about DH that you never imagined?
Re: surprises? disappointments?
The only thing that really surprised me was that I haven't gotten tired of DH. We lived apart for 5 of the 7 years we were together, so I thought we would get sick of each other quickly because we weren't used to being together all the time. Thankfully, we haven't. We even missed each other when he went away for one weekend.
There haven't been any disappointments except for the lack of job. We moved to Augusta, GA and it is not easy to get a job here. This is a big town but it has very small town tendencies. You have to know someone to get a job and I don't know ANYBODY.
Most of the stuff I have learned about DH are his childhood memories. For instance, I fixed enchiladas tonight and he told me this whole long story about how it took him back to being in the 1st grade and cafeteria lunches.
We have been amazingly similar in our household habits, i.e. putting up towels, closing toilet lid, closing shower curtain, putting up dishes etc.
We didn't live together before we got married, but the transition has been surprisingly easy. I would say that's the biggest surprise so far, and I'm very happy/relieved about that. Living together felt very natural and we've both adjusted really well.
Really the only disappointment is not being able to get our home improvement projects done sooner. Because of the amount of $$ needed to do the things we want done, it's just taking a little longer to get things done than I hoped it would (my lack of patience doesn't help though!). So it's not really disappointing, just reality...it'll still get done and we're taking our time so we don't go into debt over our projects so that's what matters!
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We didn't live together, so that's been different. It's fun though, we've got a routine that works well and we're both happy. No huge arguements or anything. It's fun having a house to come home to and take care of. I've learned Brett is an excellent sweeper, so I put him in charge of that LOL.
I'm glad the wedding stress is over, I got way over stressed [I broke a tooth 5 days before the wedding, had to wear a mouth guard at night because I was grinding so bad and had lame sh!t happen w/ BM's & MOH's] so I'm very glad thats over. Although I was cleaning stuff and found a ton of bridal magazines and enjoyed reading them haha.
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SAIF always welcome!!
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Ditto this. It felt soooo ridiculously natural to move in together, and after all the stories I heard about what an adjustment it would be, I was pleasantly surprised that there were very few surprises when we moved in together! My disappointment stems more so from me than him, and that's that I still don't have a job and at first I actually found myself very unmotivated to unpack things, cook, job hunt, etc. But thankfully I am doing/feeling much better now. I guess the only disappoinment about him was I thought he would magically become more sensitive. I should have known better!
no major surprises, we lived together a year and a half before we were married so all of our "habits" and major arguments were over with. I am with PP that say it is much more relaxed, no more wedding planning and we're happy to look toward to the future and not have the wedding be the stopping point for once!
I do more cooking and cleaning which I expected, it is cute though when he tries to help. He just can't do it like me lol so I don't mind doing it. He isn't very messy and he knows how to pick up after himself. It was somewhat of a mistake for all of his friends to go in on a PS3 for wedding gift! But, it is nice sometimes, it gives us each a chance to do our own thing.
Money has been rough recently as his business hasn't been going well do to the sucky ecomony. That's our only downfall which has caused some tension. We spend our weekends cooking, playing games, basketball, anything that doesn't cost anything! All in all, we are happy.
DH is very high-maintenance. VERY. Coupled with his stubborness. Grrr..