May 2009 Weddings
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Apparently we're cheap
I go on Cakecentral.com all the time (my new obsession is baking), and I found a thread on the forums where they were bitching about Knotties. Apparently it's horrible that we post vendor reviews, and we're all cheap and wedding obsessed.
Glad this wasn't my baker...
http://www.cakecentral.com/cake-decorating-ftopict-643788.html
Re: Apparently we're cheap
As a generalization, I think what they're saying is pretty accurate...I certainly wouldn't want to be a vendor dealing with a lot of the knotties I've seen. And I think the way TK treats vendors is crap.
I think that comment is spot on. I know there are several knotties-turned-vendors that can no longer answer questions about their expertise or say "hey, I do X service" when someone asks for it.
My photog story is a prime example...I posted to someone on my local saying that I loved their photog and asking for details. She told me that he was no longer doing wedding photography, but she couldn't include that she was now doing it. Someone else mentioned it several days later and I ended up going with her because she's amazing, but if that other person hadn't happened to mention her, I wouldn't have known about her.
Yeah, I think the whole "vendors can't post here" thing is crap IMO, but I think if you have a poor experience with a vendor you should feel free to tell other locals about it.
There are those crazies though that will totally trash a vendor because their cocktail napkins were the wrong shade of pink, but I hate that we are all lumped in that category. I loved all of my vendors, and I'm definitely not "cheap".
I think that describes some of us pretty well, sadly. However, I think it is kind of dumb to generalize that much, on the internet, when potential customers could read it. It is really unprofessional.
We had an incredibly small budget, but I don't think we were "cheap." The ceremony itself was the most important factor in our wedding, so we invested the most into our officiant. The rest of it we just made do with or found someone in our price range.
I can sympathize with the vendors when they plainly say something to the effect of "Our cakes sell at a $3 a slice minimum" or something similar, and they get requests to do elaborate designs at 50 cents a slice. I work in retail (at a big box store even) and people try to negotiate prices with me - it drives me crazy! Do you go to Wal-Mart and haggle with the cashier over your wheat bread?
I've been on CC long enough to know what some of these bakers go through. Seriously makes me wonder if I'd ever want to go into business selling because they deal with lots of crazy, over-emotional brides who write them bad checks or cancels them before the baker can cash it, gets upset because the baker drops the cake order because the bride never paid up (although the contract states a pay-by-date), and bad-mouth them for no-good reason.
I've also been a knottie long enough to know the generalization is not that far off course. Those bakers are only trying to keep one bad review from a disgruntled bride from destroying their business. It happens a lot more than we'd think.
I think it's funny that they think only the ones posting are reading. Big mistake there! There are so many more lurkers than anyone realizes. We have the right to tell the truth and warn others. I don't agree with telling lies or fabricating however.
If we cheap, ha ha ha, knotties rec. vendors, why can't we not rec. them? And furthermore, if anyone is cheap, it's because they are gouged left and right when planning a wedding. Call a dj for a party and then price them for a wedding and see what the difference is (just an example). Also, the difference in price across the country is outrageous. I remember reading what some brides paid on our board (not that I thought they should divulge the info)and seriously fell over--some people can't get breakfast for some of the prices.