When do you want to have kids?

xcitedbride2009 · July 2009

I know this may have been a topic in later posts as I have read some, but when do you all want to have kids? No one has asked me this yet or asked when me and H were going to have kids. Would you be upset if something happened now? I know it is not the best time for us right now I have to finish school.. but I wouldnt be upset if something did happen... I guess I just have babies on the brain... My sister has two precious babies and I love spending time with them. Last month I thought there was a chance I could be and I was so excited even though I knew it wasnt the best time. Im sorry if this seems like alot of rambling. I am at home bored with just thoughts going through my head..... Sorry

MrsWhitneyAmanda · July 2009

I started with a three year plan but since the day we got married I've gotten progressively more BOTB by the day. Now I'm thinking next year would be good

aravis227 · July 2009

There's a fine line between "just letting it happen" and "actively TTC"...we're on that line.

So...no, I wouldn't be upset if something happened now...I'd be ecstatic.

Jenniferk08 · July 2009

i was just recently transferred back to my previous dept at work and one of the first things one of the women asked me was... so are you pregnant yet... DH and i are waiting until our 1yr anniv before TTC. as much as i would love to be preg right now it's just not the right time, although i have already started talking about it with my gyn so i can make sure i am on the right track.

Huskerfanz · July 2009

When we got married we were thinking 3-5 years. I'm thinking it might be closer to 3 years than 5 but it depends on how my career is progressing and how DH's career is progressing.

futuremrsschulze · July 2009

DH and I want to be married at least a year before we have our first. So somewhere in the next year or 2 we'll start TTC. If we got pregnant now (or sooner than we're planning), I would be surprised and a little nervous, but very excited! I agree with pp though, since the wedding I've definitely had some serious baby fever, but I know that waiting a year or 2 is probably what's best for us.

xcitedbride2009 · July 2009

I was reading on here the 5 worst reasons to want to get pregnant... One says that we have nothing left to obsess over since the wedding is over that we want a baby and all that excitement to look forward to since we have no wedding excitement left..... I wonder if that is what it is I dunno.. I know that sounds kinda harsh but its on here under the 5 worst reasons to want to get pregnant or something like that. I would not be upset but I would like to wait until 2011... I will be out of school and hopefully more stable... Does anyone take Loestrin? Thats the BC I am on I hope it works good... I have been on it awhile. Someone told me that they stopped taking it and it took them six months to get pregnant

bayhunter6 · July 2009

We're waiting at least another 2-3 years. I love babies and know I want children one day but right now I have no baby fever at all, which I'm glad for since it isn't the right time.

RoRo10733 · July 2009

In about 1 to 1.5 years. Our daughter will be 2 in December so I would like her to be 3+years old. No-one has asked us yet (maybe b/c we already have one?!) I want a baby sooner then DH but the daughter would like one now!! She is baby obsessed! (Xcited bride) I am on the same birth control BUT I got pregnant just over a month of coming off a different and higher dose of birth control. It all depends on your body BUT as long as you take it correctly you should be good to go!

shexmix · July 2009

Oh good grief. It doesn't matter one bit what you're on vs. what someone else is on: every individual has a unique body chemistry, so whoTF cares if someone is on the same pill as you? Or what "someone" told you? Your body won't match up to mine or anyone else's except for maybe your mother's, if anyone. If you want information about your own prescription, ask your doctor.

And it sounds to me like you just may fit into that category of former brides who want something new to be excited about.

Personally, I don't want a baby within the first year of my marriage. Too many things we want to see and do that would be complicated or impossible with an infant in tow.

Chrissy3321 · July 2009

Our plan is to wait at least a couple years before TTC, if God has another plan I guess we will roll with that.

Funny, we have 2 pregnant friends and at a wedding Friday Sean told them not to sit by me since they are spreading babies around! I died laughing. He wants a motorcycle first.

JoaPata · July 2009

I am in my thirties so I do not have the luxury of waiting 5 years. I am on a medication that I can't take and get preggo on though so we are waiting over a year until I am off of the medication to even try. It is nice to have some time with my DH.

emmypants · July 2009

We'd talked about waiting until May 2010, but the bugs bitten us, so we are talking about January now. My theory is it'll take a bit for the pill to get out of my system. But if it happend tomorrow, we'd be over the moon Smile

RockThisB!tch · July 2009

We're going to start trying in November/December, but we're not doing much to prevent right now and I'm not on BC.

jquirke9881 · July 2009

We are TTC now so we want kids as soon as it is in God's plan for us.

me2rean · July 2009

If I was to do it all over again, I would wait until a year or two after being married (or atleast living together) to have a baby. While I don't regret anything, babies are more than a bundle of joy and can put a strain on relationships. I would recommend (esp. if you haven't lived together prior to getting married) waiting until you are financially ready (I don't think this ever happens, haha!) or are done with school, just because of one less stress you have to deal with. But, if it happens it happens, be happy and enjoy everything!

MuseumMaven · July 2009

I'll probably go off the pill sometime in the spring - then we'll probably just see what happens for a while before actively TTC.

We're both done with school, we're financially secure, and by spring we'll both be in our thirties. We're waiting a little while to enjoy (and get used to) just being the two of us, but we aren't waiting too long.

Regarding BCP and pregnancy, taking the pill does not make it harder to get pregnant down the line. TTC for 6 months is actually pretty average - anything less than a year is considered normal.

aswartzw · July 2009

Before we were married, 5 years. Now? We are still quite happy to wait those full 5 years. We both want "us" time and there are way too many things we want to do before juggling kids. Plus neither of us are baby crazy at all. Kids drive me crazy if I spend more than a few hours with them (If I make it that long!). Nope, no kids for us for a VERY long time. :-)

nbecker2284 · July 2009

We were planning on waiting a few months because I thought it would take longer to get pg than it did, but I guess God had other plans for us. I wouldn't change anything though!

lorimw1 · July 2009

We'll start trying next summer. While I have BOTB, I am not actively TTC.

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