Rough decision

Futuremrssoll · July 2009

I shared on the baby board that I went to the doctor today and I'm 2 cm dilated and only 34 weeks along. ?At this point the baby could be in there a couple more weeks, or come any day now, according to my doc. ?We are supposed to be leaving for vacation on Saturday to Deep Creek Lake, so its about 4 hours away. ?My doc does not want me to go because he feels that its too much of a risk for an early delivery, especially since Eli was born at 36.5 weeks. ?To those not baby week savvy, term is 37-40 weeks, the later the better. ?If we have the baby now, she'll have to be in the nicu most likely because of incomplete lung development. ?Well, all that said, my husband is super disappointed because we have not had a vacation yet this summer, and its with his family. ?The doctor did not say that we could not go, but strongly encourages us not to go, and said if we do go, then he does not want to know, haha. ?I told my DH that i'm not super comfortable going now, and hes just really upset. ?I am disappointed too, because i've been looking forward to getting away as well, especially befor this one comes, but I do not want anything to make her come too early. ?I guess just mostly i need to vent. ?I feel bad because he seems hurt that we can't go, but i do not want to have the baby on vacation, away from everything, if she even comes this early, which she may not. ?With Eli, when they told me I was 2cm, I had him like 5 days later. ?grr

Emmy323 · July 2009

Don't go. If you go, have the baby and she needs the NICU you'll be four hours away from your house, friends and family. Coming from a Mom who had a baby in the NICU...you don't want to risk it. You'll be so upset at yourself if that happens. Definitely play it safe. You have the rest of your life to take vacations with your kids!

Mrs.Buzly · July 2009

Aww, I'm sorry that you got this news, but I have to agree with the pp--I wouldn't go either. Yes, its a bummer, but I'd rather play it safe.

Keep us updated and best of luck to you during your last few weeks! How exciting!

jasonlovessara · July 2009

I was just about to say the same thing as Emmy.... My babies were born at 34 weeks and spent 3 weeks in the NICU. Chances are you may not have the baby but if you did wouldn't you rather be at a hospital that you are comfortable with plus God forbid if the baby was in the NICU you would be traveling that 4 hours... they will not transport a baby just for proximity. You have to make the final call.... but I would not go

jjenkins · July 2009

I can understand wanting to get away especially before the arrival of the baby but I definitely wouldn't risk it for the reasons the other ladies have already posted. I can understand your DH being disappointed but I think he's being a bit childish. I mean you'll have the opportunity to go on other vacations.

summerbridesara · July 2009

I'm just curious as to why you planned a vacation so late in your pregnancy?

I definitely would not go. It's so much better to play it safe then to take the chance the baby may come a little early and you'll be so far from home. Like the pp said, you'll have many years to vacation. I know it's upsetting to have to change your plans at the last minute, but I really think it's better to not go.

Futuremrssoll · July 2009

We didn't plan the vacation, its our in-law's side of the family vacation. ?We always go every year the first week in August. ?The whole family goes and stays in the rented house, my DH has a big family. ?My sister in law was in a similar?predicament?last summer, except she was further along in her pregnancy, she had our nephew then on Aug. 19, and ended up not coming to the lake. ?Its good because we are not losing any money or anything, but my DH also had a trip to San Francisco for business planned the following week?because?that was the "last week" we thought he could do before the pregnancy. ?He is?canceling?that trip and then just flying out after the baby is born to do the stuff he needs to before we move out there. ?We are pretty certain that we are not going, at least I am not going at all, he may go a few days. ?

pookielove · July 2009

That's a shame. It sucks that you have to miss your vacation, but in light of this news, you probably wouldn't have been able to relax and enjoy yourself anyway. I hope she stays in there a few more weeks and the rest of the time goes smoothly for you!

teddybearjk2009 · July 2009

I agree with all the pp, so I really don't have anything new to say, but I just wanted to say good luck with everything, you'll be in T&Ps!

futuremrscohick · July 2009

I wouldn't take the chance. I know your hubby is upset, but seriously, the baby and you come before any vacation. If he's dying to go, and you're not too upset by it, maybe he can go up with Eli for a few days to at least get some vacation in. Not sure if you'd have any help around.

But I would just stay home, personally. I'd be afraid to exert myself and not be near a NICU if the baby needed it.

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