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Party invitation pet peeve
DH and I are invited to a party this weekend. I don't know the couple all that well, but they are friends with friends of ours, so I will know people there. But my pet peeve is that the invite asks you to bring a covered dish to share, if you'd like. To me, that is just tacky. It's a birthday party for the wife. If you can't cover enough food for you guests, don't throw a party!
Is this acceptable now?
Re: Party invitation pet peeve
I'm the same way - it's my party, so I'll provide everything. The only time I'll say yes when someone asks if they should bring something is if they say, "Would you like me to make XYZ" something specific. Or I tell them to bring lawn chairs if it's an outside party. And usually we do our best to have as many of those as possible!
Ditto this. I think alot of the etiquette rules have gone out the window. Last month I was invited to a baby shower over Facebook.
Agree with you there. My family used to hold a lot of pot luck style picnics for our neighborhood, or our family (which is quite large), and it didn't seem tacky at all there. BUT I think that is a totally different situation- for a birthday party, or any non-picnic style party, I think it is a little tacky.
That is exactly why I think this crosses into tacky-territory. Normally, I'd have no issue with bringing a dish. However, if it is a situation where I would typically be giving a gift, I don't think guests should be asked to provide the food.
Wow...when I read the OP this morning I must not of been awake because I didn't even think of that part! Yikes. These people are k-lassy!
I definitely didn't consider that either!?
They could have easily just said it was "cake & Ice cream" at an off-meal time and wouldn't have had to be so tacky...or had a smaller party they could afford.
We have a big picnic/BBQ every summer for our anniversary (we try to get all of our BM's/GM's together again with our family & friends...almost like a wedding reunion). It's nothing formal, we don't send invitations, it's mostly word of mouth or an email to those out of town. We provide the keg & soda, meat & rolls (pulled pork and beef brisket...not burgers & hot dogs) and then everyone just brings their specialty dish or a dessert...my mom brings mac & cheese, someone brings brownies, etc.
When I hosted a surprise Birthday party for DH 2 years ago, I didn't ask anyone to bring anything.