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a c&p because i'm wondering if i'm crazy
the OP is going to DD the post, so i'm just showing you the text:
We live next to the inlaws and they leave their dog at our house during the day. This started because I was in school and so was home during part of the day and could let the dog out during the day. That is fine, we have a dog also so no big deal.
My issue is that now I work part time so if we aren't always home when they get home my MIL comes into my house to get the dog. We have told them repeatedly that the back gate is unlocked and so is the backdoor (that opens directly into the "dog" room), but she still comes into our house. FIL does not.
This really wouldn't bother me except that I'm starting to hear comments from SIL (who has only been to our house once) about our house being dirty. I work out of town a week at a time so yes, it does get messy between the time I'm not home. DH works full time and I only work part time so I don't expect him to deep clean when I will be home in a week and will have a week off to do house chores. When I worked and went to school he did the majority of the housework, now I do.
The other day I came home as she was coming into our house. I was not in my vehicle so she didn't see me. She was in our house for over 15 minutes which totally skeeves me out for some reason.
Would this bother you? And I will definitely DD.
My parents don't have a very healthy relationship so I have a hard time determining when I am just being ridiculous, or if it is actually an issue that would bother someone else.
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almost everyone is telling her to change the locks, a few saying "just tell them you forgot to make them a key" or that "it's too expensive to make a duplicate." i think it's super passive-aggressive to do that and that it would be a better idea to just be up front about it, especially since she and her husband are on the same page about it.
WDYT?
Re: a c&p because i'm wondering if i'm crazy
agreed. i'd have hubs talk to them and/or talk to them with him present first.
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I would be bothered if my IL's or even my own parents did this. It's odd. It's surely rude and I am surprised that they haven't addressed it. I don't know what bothers me more....the fact that she's there for 15min at a time or that she's commented behind her back about her housekeeping skills. The whole thing reaks.
If the hubby is too weak to confront his parents then I guess losing keys is the only way to go. Sometimes it's better to avoid drama by being passive aggressive no?
I'd personally make DH handle the situation since I'm so non-confrontational (aka wimp)
Husband's problem.
I agree with this. I think changing the locks is a bit much, for the time being.
Ditto. Though I would never live next to my ILs in the first place