May 2007 Weddings
Started TTC 11/07
BFP 09/24/08
Miscarriage 09/30/08
First cycle of clomid August 09
Second cycle of clomid September 09
BFP 09/30/09
Miscarriage 10/10/09
Three more rounds of clomid and no success
Diagnosed with Unexplained Infertility
Abnormal Bleeding for 3 months resulted in D&C but results were normal
November 2010 100mg clomid but didn't respond
December 2010 forced break for a cyst
February 2011 150mg clomid but still no response
March 2011 250mg clomid and responded! Ovidrel trigger shot and IUI on March 31 Beta #1 11dpo: 27 Beta #2 15dpo: 85 Beta #3 18dpo 276
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Need friend advice (kinda long)
My MOH is my BFF in the whole world...she lives 4hrs away so we don't get to see each other much. I hate that! She's married has 1 kid and just found out she's pregnant again. Her loser husband doesn't have a serious job because he's become a lifetime student. He does nothing to help with their 1 year old and makes her wait on him hand and foot! His mom has money and is basically paying for them to live. She makes just enough money with her own graphic design business to pay their utilities, pay her student loan, and buy groceries. His mom bought them a townhouse to live in. She has no maternity insurance so his mom is more than likely going to pay all the bills for this baby. I'm just really concerned about her. I just got done talking to her sister (another good friend of mine) and she just confirmed these worries I have. Probably even made them worse. I want to talk to my friend but not over the phone or email because she can avoid the issue that way. I'm closer to her relationship wise than she is with her sister. They've tried talking to her but she's the type that she will put up with something even if it jepordizes her happiness. I'm planning a trip down there soon because he won't let her come visit me since they only have 1 car. Should I confront her about it or just let it be? She hardly talks to her family other than her mom because of him. Her mom does not like him but she can't say anything and risk losing contact with her. She just deserves so much more.
Started TTC 11/07
BFP 09/24/08
Miscarriage 09/30/08
First cycle of clomid August 09
Second cycle of clomid September 09
BFP 09/30/09
Miscarriage 10/10/09
Three more rounds of clomid and no success
Diagnosed with Unexplained Infertility
Abnormal Bleeding for 3 months resulted in D&C but results were normal
November 2010 100mg clomid but didn't respond
December 2010 forced break for a cyst
February 2011 150mg clomid but still no response
March 2011 250mg clomid and responded! Ovidrel trigger shot and IUI on March 31 Beta #1 11dpo: 27 Beta #2 15dpo: 85 Beta #3 18dpo 276
Re: Need friend advice (kinda long)
I think that sometimes it is easier to see the faults in other people's marraiges than it is to see in your own. That being said, if you want to be her friend, you need to be there for her, not point out the problems in her marriage. Because if you do, she may turn the finger around and say some hurtful things to you. I pointed out to one of my friends before she got married that she seemed unhappy with her FI and wasn't the same girl she was before they started dating. She told me that someone who decides to marry someone who lives across the country after only 11 months of dating shouldn't talk about other people's decisions.
We haven't spoken since.
I'm all for being honest, even when it's sometimes a little hurtful. I have to agree with Mandy on this one. I mean, no offense, but are you prepared for what she might fling back? And truthfully,... what good is going to come out of you saying anything? So you point out her husband's a loser... then what? Help her leave him so she doesn't even have her MIL's financial assistance? Because he's a bum?
If she's truly unhappy in her relationship/situation,... THEN I might try and help her figure out what direction she wants to go. But I wouldn't tear apart her man for a few reasons: a) Love is often blind. Ignorant blind. So if she loves him, thinks he's a great father, or whatever reasons she's chosen him in her life,... you're going to sit there and say all these negative things and she's going to get PISSED at you more than likely, b) As Mandy said, when people are confronted, they're often going to retaliate and throw back. No way to build your friendship, or to help her.
Sorry, but the shittiest part about being a friend... is loving them and trying to be there for them even when you don't agree with their decision. If it was something fixable like "Are you sure you want to dye your hair that color 2 weeks before your wedding??" (and then sitting at the salon with her for 4 hours while it gets corrected), that's different. But she's MARRIED. Are you prepared - mentally, emotionally, financially, physically to help her if she chose to leave her husband?