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Gifts for nieces and nephew poll
I was reading a post on another board about gifts for nieces and/or nephews and it's something I've been thinking about a lot lately so I'd love some feedback on these questions : )
1. How many nieces and/or nephews do you have?
2. What did you give as baby gifts? Did you spend less on a second,etc child or the same?
3. Did how much you spent corelate with how close you/DH is with sibling? (did you spent less on a niece or nephew from a sibling that you're not that close with)
Re: Gifts for nieces and nephew poll
1. None! But I still want to answer.....
2. I would probably spend the same for each child.
3. I will probably spend equal to what that sibling gave us. For instance, *someone* has not given us anything yet for DS (not for birth, Christmas, or birthday) so I will probably be pretty cheap with them when they have kids (but I would still get something because it's not the kid's fault.....)
1. 3 nieces (with another one on the way) and 3 nephews
2. It depends. I threw 2 showers and went in on a bigger gift for those one's. I have given swings, highchairs, clothes, blankets, baby supplies. I tend to spend the same amount on the gifts regardless if it is the first, second etc.
3. No. We are both close with all of our siblings so this question doesn't really apply. I have found that we have spent the same amount on our nieces and nephews regardless (for all gift giving events).
1. 5 nieces
2. I wasn't around when the first niece was born. For the next 2, there were showers held after they were born, so I got one the video monitor she wanted and for the other one we contributed to her RESP (it was their second child and they had everything). For the 4th niece, I made a huge basket of the ABCs of what the baby would need and I helped to host the shower, and for the 5th niece who was just born (it's SIL's 3rd child), I'm cooking meals for them to eat for a few days (her mom is away, and can't help and I bet MIL would drive her crazy - she says it's the best gift ever!).
3. No. I'm super close with all my SILs.
I'd like to add a question 4.
4. Approximately (if you feel comfortable) how much money did you spend per niece or nephew.
I'll answer my own poll even though well... I'm still in the debating stage.
1. We're expecting 2 on DH's side late this year and early next year. One from his brother and our SIL that we're really close to and live 5 minutes from and one from his sister and our BIL that we're not very close (because frankly she's not very nice) to and who live 2 1/2 hours away.
2. I'm in the process of making a bunch of things for both babies and have been using ridiculously expensive fabrics. So far for DH's sister's baby I have bought the book Someday, and a Norwex baby face cloth and made 4 burp clothes, 1 soother strap, a portable change pad and a blanket.(I will post pictures soon because I'm pretty proud of these things)
For DH's brother's baby I have bought a couple of books, a Norwex baby face cloth, and I have made 4 burp clothes, 1 soother strap, and will be making a couple of bibs, a change pad and a blanket.
I have started baskets for these babies and plan to buy different books, and other things along the way. I may throw a baby shower for DH's brother's wife and/or may buy a bigger present once I know what they want.
3. Yes most likely. I know we will be close with DH's brother's baby because we'll see it quite often and our relationship with them in all respects is very much of a two way street. But at the same time I'm trying to get excited still for SILs baby because it's not fair to love it any less because we don't totally get along with her. It's not the baby's fault and it deserves to have an aunt and uncle that are crazy about it. (If that makes any sense). But at the same time I'm probably not going to spend oodles of money because I know that when the time comes for us to have babies we'll probably get the shaft gift wise.
4. We will probably spend around $100-150 on DH's brother's baby and ? on DH's sister's baby.
1) I have seven, all of which are my husband's. My siblings aren't old enough to have kids yet. To be honest I don't really see myself as being an aunt to any of them- but then we don't see my husband's family really much at all. But it always takes me by surprise when one of them will call me Aunt when addressing me.
2) Nothing- they were all born before I met my husband
3) I imagine that will be the case- I'm sure we'll spend more on my sisters than he spent on his siblings. I have no idea how much my husband spent on his nieces and nephews, as he was just a kid when they were born, and we aren't expecting any more on his side as all his siblings seem to be done having kids (the youngest niece is 10 now). I am much closer with my family than he is with his, and I see myself going crazy when my sisters eventually have kids. My eldest sister is only 11, so I imagine it will be at least 10 years until I'm an aunt. I would like to be equal with each of my sisters, though.
1) So far, just one niece. My brother isn't married, and doesn't want children of his own. DH's youngest brother is probably 5 years or so from having kids.
2) When BIL and his wife announced they were pregnant, I got them a gift with a couple onesies, Sophie the Giraffe, a blanket, and a couple of the small toys that DD liked. For the shower, I bought them a wooden red wagon, filled with toys, books, diapers, wipes. I probably spent $350 or so. When baby was born, I got them an outfit, some hair bows and a pair of "squeaky shoes" I have probably spent close to $600 over the year since they announced their pregnancy. DH's family tends to go very overboard on things though. I probably wouldn't spend as much on the second child (I would on gifts after the baby was born, but I look at a shower gift as kind of a gift for "all children of the couple" . I would probably still get a gift when they announced they were expecting (probably something smaller than for the first) and a gift when the baby was born (probably more if it was a baby of a different sex than the first, because they would need more of the opposite sex stuff).
3) The same (ish) for each I would expect. DH is super close to both brothers, so I don't think it would be an issue. I would do the same for my brother, but he isn't planning on having kids.
1. How many nieces and/or nephews do you have? 2 nieces (both are DH's only sister's kids) my brother is not having kids anytime soon.
2. What did you give as baby gifts? Did you spend less on a second,etc child or the same? Honestly I don't remember. I wasn't invited to the shower for the first niece (it was before we were married and I guess the host didn't know me?) I don't think we bought them any newborn gifts. For the 2nd niece we bought the older niece a game which was about $20-30, and the baby some onesies and stuff.
3. Did how much you spent correlate with how close you/DH is with sibling? n/a
4. Approximately (if you feel comfortable) how much money did you spend per niece or nephew. not that much... but we didn't have any money when our first niece was born, and our 2nd niece had everything she needed already. Maybe it matters that this is DH's older sister who has a lot more money... but I don't think it matters how much you spend, it's the thought that counts.
4. Approximately (if you feel comfortable) how much money did you spend per niece or nephew.
For a shower gift and gift right after the baby is born I would say we probably spend $150 (this does not include the cost of throwing the shower).
1. How many nieces and/or nephews do you have? I have 1 niece and 5 nephews and 2 step-nephews (KSIL's kids)
2. What did you give as baby gifts? Did you spend less on a second,etc child or the same? What didn't I give as baby gifts?! I usually go way overboard on babies, it doesn't matter to me if they are first born - they all deserve to be spoiled.
3. Did how much you spent corelate with how close you/DH is with sibling? (did you spent less on a niece or nephew from a sibling that you're not that close with) Yes, absolutely. My mom always says that life isn't equal, but it's fair. We are super duper close to my sis's kids, so we think nothing of spending way more on them. We spend less on SIL's kids, and even less on the steps...we rarely see them and hardly know them!