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Can I just let this out? (a little long)
I don't normally complain about the hubs on here b/c overall he's a good guy and b/c girls on here know him and I don't want them to think badly of him... but I need to vent for just a minute.
I know that I'm lucky and that this pg has been really smooth, no bumps, minimal (if any) sickness, energy is overall great and I feel great most of the time. But I am 7 months pregnant, and I am tiring out easier, I try not to show it or complain b/c really there's nothing anyone can do about it.
All I ask is for a little extra help around the house... like the tub - it's hard to clean now that I have bump, the baseboards - not easy to do, again bump in the way (cat hair adores our baseboards, it's a must do every few weeks) and probably a few more things. There's not alot I'm asking for but when I do it's a big production about how much he is taking on, how he's doing every reno I ask of him (and he's right he does with little to no argument), but like seriously, I'm making a baby here! He doesn't get how hard somethings are to do now.
The kicker is that he is incredibly doting when it comes to other things (cravings, massages, getting me anything) , but some things he just gets all selfish about and it's driving me crazy. In all honesty I would rather a clean tub (that I didn't clean) than a late night grocery store run... maybe it's just hormones, but it's really bothering me today.
If you made it this far... thanks for listening.
Re: Can I just let this out? (a little long)
Boo..I'm sorry Sarah. I don't have much advice, cause you're a smart girl and have a good relationship, so I know you'll figure out the best way to handle it. Just wanted to say I understand and that sucks.
::hugs::
I am sure it is just that he feels like he is doing a lot around the house already with the reno's and that it is hard for him to imagine taking on more tasks. He probably finds it easy to look after you in addition to the reno's but he most likely doesn't put cleaning the tub or the baseboards into that category.
I'm sorry you're feeling overwhelmed...
no one likes cleaning the tub, also I would be money that if I asked DH right now what a baseboard was he wouldn't be able to tell me (which means why in the world would he ever think to clean them). So it sounds like they are just crappy jobs which he's trying to avoid. The thing is, with you not able to do them... it really only leaves him. These are the things about being a grown up I do not like.
No actual advice from my end, but I hope you two figure it out soon!
Thanks Ladies.... Jen you hit it on the head, he is doing a lot around the house for renos right now and I am just adding to it, which is making him feel like he's doing everything. We talked it out last night as I knew we would and are going to swtich up a few of the chores that I can do and he'll do some more of mine (even though he hates cleaning the tub). Easy solution I know, but I was in a mood about it yesterday - stupid hormones.
Shannon - lol at you H not knowing what baseboards are
You're totally allowed to vent about A. I will still love him nonetheless...
This is the thing I have noticed about guys. It's the stuff they'd rather not do (and most of them are cleaning related) that they will b*tch about the most.
He's probably feeling a little overloaded and it's the undesirable jobs he's complaining about. It does get harder as you get bigger, and he's just going to have to get used to doing those things until you are able to again.
What I do when it comes to coaxing him to do these jobs, is I do some good ol' fashioned "ego-stroking" as my mom likes to call it.
Ego stroking - is that what the kids are calling it these days?