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Re: Thursday Confessions
Alright, so I put in for a full time position at Wegmans. Its basically the same thing that I am doing now, just a?guaranteed?40 hours a week. I am SO nervous about the prospect of being interviewed. When I went for an interview to get my first job here, I completely blew it off as not a "real" interview, because I was just doing it for some extra $$. But now that I am here, I see how I can turn this into a career and I am so worried I am going to screw it up. If I get full time, I can *finally* start saving again, which means we can start thinking about things like houses and babies again, or at the very least, getting out of this dumpy apartment. So there is kind of a lot riding on this one teeny interview.?
Also, there was a FT position at my current store, and one at another store. On one hand, I would like to stay at my current store, but on the other hand, it would be good to go to another store, learn new things and meet new people there, esp. in this company, where you come in contact with a lot of the same people over and over again. But there I go, jumping the gun.
In fertility news, we have been doing a "not preventing, but not trying" thing. I'm nixing it for the next 6 months because I am the MOH in a wedding in May and I know I won't be able to pull off all the stuff I have to do if I have to waddle around with a beach ball under my dress.?
We are not preventing but not trying also!!!
I think I want a baby but then I think about all the things holding us back also....but if it happens it happens...:).
I confess I want to work part time...and I could have an opportunity to do it at Kelsey's daycare where then her tutition would be free for me....but I am scared to death to leave my full time job...
Hey guys! Sorry I've been MIA lately. I've been busy with work and so tired. I've had some morning sickness too, but I had a feeling I would.
I confess that I'm scared that I will go to the doctor in two weeks and be told that I'm not really pregnant. I know I am but this is a fear of mine. Silly I know.
Hm, where do I begin: I am friends w/ one of my ex's sisters on facebook. She & I have always talked since ex & I broke up....6 years ago. we broke up around christmas 2003. Well I saw that he had commented on one of her status so i sent him a friend request. nothing wrong w/ that. DH is friends w/ one of his exs on myspace, and we are both confident in our truest & love. so he sent me a message asking if i was friends w/ his soon to be ex wife on facebook. i said yes- but i will delete her (flameful, i know).... so i deleted her. ( i dont not like her, she is crazy, and we never talked on FB ne ways)... so--- ex and i are sending messages backing forth, just catching up with each other. We have not talked at all since we broke up. Our break up was not a good or easy one. It was good to catch up with him. I told DH i talked to him. Dh has done the same w/ one of his exs. So, ex's soon to be ex wife is now sending me messages on FB abot how its messed up i deleted her to be friends w/ her "husband"... and if i have something to say about her i should say it to her face. she said she graduated HS 6 years ago and she left the drama there (really then why are you sending me these ridiculous messages?) and how i shouldn't have put anything on my FB status about the movie fireproof.... (what? does that have to do w/ her i have no idea- dh & I watched Fireproof about a month ago, and on my FB status i put how all married couples should watch it bc its an amazing movie., nothing to do w/ her, i didn't even know anything about her impendind divorce..uhm bc i could care less about her and her issues.)
She has issues w/ me. Long before i friended her "husband" on FB. She has been jealous of me their entire message, and i have heard this from his sister, and he told me this last night. He said that she would say "I wish you loved me the way you loved Jena"... "I wish i was more like Jena, then you would love me more".... and the killer is "i wish you would break a window for me?" ..... uhmmmm????? (the story behind that is, the night we broke up he punched the windshield of his truck and cracked it, that was when i realized he was crazy and didn't want to be w/ him)....so yeah, she has had issues w/ me for a very long time. Like I said, i haven't talked to ex in 6yrs so there was nothing for her to be jealous of.
this is long-sorry. So i sent ex a mesage on fb today and told him i'm deleting him from my friends. i keep getting messages from his wife and i can't handle this drama. .... and i deleted him.
Most of this is probably my fault, i shouldn't have contacted him, but i did not mean to cause any trouble, i literally was just trying to catch up with him.
so that is my confession. ugh.
I cannot wait until the 25th to find out whether we're having a boy or girl...everywhere I go I see adorable baby stuff and I just want to start the nursery and getting things together!!!
Work is just mind-numbing right now. I have lost my motivation and interest in being here yet, I have a LOT on my plate to puzzle through before I'm out on leave for 6 months.
The whole maternity leave/working after baby issue is weighing heavily on my mind. I really wish that the economy was better and that DH and I could just pick up and move to a lower cost of living area where I could work part-time and we'd be fine (my sister is dying for us to relocate to Buffalo). We both make really good money here and do well but, our salaries are about equal now so cutting our inclome in half during a recession and with a new baby will just not be smart. My dream is to be a stay at home mom and, at least with this first baby, it's just not going to happen. Crap.
Meag - Remember going in that an interview is for you to feel out the position and see if it's what YOU want as much as it is about them making sure you are the right person. You're a hard worker and know your stuff...be confident and good luck!!! As far ar TTC, 6 months isn't too far along to be in a wedding...definitely not beach ball yet. Just sayin' ;-)
Jena - Sounds like you did what you needed to do. Who needs that kind of drama? Ridiculous of her.
Brit - I imagine that part-time sounds super appealing between your little one and school. I hope you can come to a decision you're happy with.
Kelly - I think every newly pregnant woman feels the same way. Hang in there!!!
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Wow - lots of news this morning. Here we go...
Meagan - good luck with the job interview!!
Kelly - hope the morning sickness gest better soon and you feel h&h
BKenan - good luck with deciding what to do about the job situation and the trying/not trying for a baby!
Jena - Wow - lots of drama. I hope unfriending both of them helps the situation.
Now me... I'm bummed because we FINALLY have a full weekend off from the farm. Sounds great, but the bad part is I am going to my parent's for the weekend for my Dad's 60th birthday, and DH is going to a friends for an all-guys camping weekend. I'm glad we're both getting away, I'm just disappointed that we won't even spend our precious weekend together. However, he may come up to my parents at the end of the weekend. Let's hope so.
Also, I still haven't officially signed up for my half marathon. I was waiting for the 2-months before mark just so I felt more certain I would actually do it. Now.. I have this crappy pain/injury. You may notice that I added the race to my siggy; I really want to still plan on doing it. I don't want to lose my $40 reg fee if I can't run, but I also really want to work through this injury if at all possible. I guess we'll see.
Jen - that's wonderful that you're taking a 6 month leave!!! I agree with you on wanting to be a stay-at-home mom. I think it's such a great thing. Right now, we couldn't afford it, but maybe if we wait long enough to have kids....
I hope you get a giant dose of motivation/pep for these last months at work. I'm sure I would be feeling the same way. Heck, I sometimes feel that way anyhow:)
I stayed home w/Kelsey until she was 1, I was working but part time in the afternoon/evenings. So it was wonderful being able to be w/her during the days...which when we have another one I would really like this to the case also. I just dont see it happening. Dh would be great w/watching 2 of them, and it wouldnt be every night or anything.
Jen- I cant wait to find out what ur having!! Its such an exciting time!
Jena- I still saty in contact w/one ex's( by means of fb or myspace) and at first it was really bad because one of them had a gf who hated me just because my x had prom pictures of us...um ok whatever.
I do agree w/ you about deleting him though because you dont need that added drama or stress, heck all you wanted to was catch up with him, not cause drama...I am not one to deal w/drama involving me well. People can be so dumb.
exactly. It really is irrtating me. I dont understand why she is being so crazy. I mean I do, bc she has been jealous of me for their entire relationship. But that is her own crazy insecurities, nothing I did. WHY would you marry someone who you think doesn't love you enough? I mean seriously? I guess maybe she thought once they were married he would love her more? & I dont think he was hung up on me, i think she was hung up.. Wow. i'm just really aggravated by the whole thing. i just want to send her a message and tell her how stupid i think she is. but i'm better then that. but oh how i want to.
Jen - I don't think 6 months is a beach ball, but the wedding isn't until May 15, so if something happened now, I would be about to *pop* by then. And I would feel like a big dog turd if for some reason I couldn't go to it (even tho I have sworn that it would only be if I was actually pushing a baby out of my vag, other than that I am there). Also, it would be nice if you could stay home, at least for a bit, but you're right, it might not be the best timing to cut your income in half. The thing to remember about moving to a place like Buffalo is that the cost of living is lower, but so are the salaries.?
Sting - you are probably better off bot being friends (FB, myspace or otherwise) with either one if they can't act like adults. It's sucky but its better than the drama
Kelly - Sorry you've been feeling sick. Its for a good reason, at least. Did you end up talking to your sister about your dad? I bet you will feel better once you get to the dr. and things are confirmed. H&H 9 months!
Thom - hope your leg is feeling better soon so you can sign up for the race. Kinda stinky that the break you get from the farm is going to be spent separate, but hopefully you will have a nice time doing your own things...?
Kel: I totally did not know you were pregnant! When did you test? I thought I had been keeping up with the comments and posts around here, but apparently I missed the one where you revealed that news! Congratulations!
As far as my own confessions:
I have not been dieting or exercising, but I have been trying to watch what I eat, drink more water, and I am chasing after 12 2yr olds all day. I have lost a couple pounds, but I am planning on stepping up the process and losing a little more here. I need to start swimming again.
I feel like we hardly ever have sex anymore. Since I started working, I'm tired when I get home, and on the evenings I am in the mood, he wants to wait til the morning, and I am very rarely in the mood when I first wake up. We have so many things going on most evenings. I feel like we barely see each other..... anyone else feel like that?
ME ME ME!!!
I think my problem is that we lived apart for so long and didnt have a sexual relationship, and now we are married and living together. I had my routine down with Kelsey, bath time then read and bed. Well now I am still getting Kelsey used to sleeping in her room and not with me, and usually I fall asleep w/her on accident. DH gets really upset and wont wake me up after i fall asleep.
I feel like he wants it ALL. THE. TIME. yes we are still newlyweds I get that, but come one everyday morning and night...ouch! Dont get me wrong I want it to, just not that much. I agree that I am tired at night and in the morning I dont leave enough time to spare....usually weekends are the best time for us but sometimes I just want to sleep.....ugh.
:::raises hand::: Me too! We also did not have sex for 7 months before we were married. I grew up being taught sex b4 marriage is bad.... we did have sex before marriage,(he was the first person i ever slept with)... but our pastor asked us to abstain from sex before we got married. We got engaged in april, and the last time we had sex before we got married was august. And even when we did have sex before i would feel very guilty about it, because, for me, it was wrong. I was taught differently and that always stuck with me. So DH thinks i still have some of that left in me, even though we are married, and its okay now, i have that "sex is bad" mentality still.... Plus I have no sex drive what-so-ever. I do'nt know if its my BC or not...i've changed BC several times and nothing seems to work. But I don't want to get pregnant so i just keep on trucking. DH also wants it ALL THE TIME.....not in the morning but pretty much from the time he gets home from work until we go to bed he constantly makes comments. I've told him he makes me feel like a piece of meat sometimes and if would approach it differently it might help me to feel more comfortable about sex... sometimes he does, sometimes he doesn't.... I'm just hoping as time goes on i'll get used to the idea and i wont feel so uncomfortable about it.
Jena- Dh does the same thing! From the time he gets off work until I finally give it to him...he is asking and making comments. If I wear a dress out or something cute, he is like o we could have fun with that later. It makes me want to scream. and he knows it...ugh
We also didnt have sex for 2 years....before we were married...ekkkkk
we did before that bc we have a child...lol. but after she was born I said no more...bc I was taught the same no sex b4 marriage. We did it 2 times after she was born and I freaked out both times and was so guilty about it...so I totally understand the guilty feeling!
Meag- GOOD LUCK ON YOUR INTERVIEW!!!! I'm sure you'll be fine and Jen is right this is also a chance for you to see if this is what you want too!! Keep us updated on how it goes!!
Brit- that would be awesome to be able to work p/t and at kelsey's school to top it off!! Free tuition would be awesome for ya'll!! Definitely see if it could work with ya'lls budget. Atleast her tuition wouldn't be a factor anymore so honestly it could possibly work!
Jen- I cannot WAIT for ya'll to find out what you are having!!! that is soo exciting!!! I think that's great that you are getting to be off for 6 months with the baby too!! And oh how I would love to be a SAHM too. THat would just rock. Have ya'll thought anymore about moving to Greece and raising the fam there? I know you had mentioned it as a possibility once a LONG time ago.
Jena-you totally did the right thing for deleting both of them, screw them if they can't act mature! Thats ridiculous!!
Kelly-I hope you get to feeling better soon dear!! Let us know how your dr's visit goes, i'm sure everything is going to be A-OK!!
Lisa-I hope your leg/butt pain (i read H&F board) goes away soon! Are you going back to the chiropractor today? I would hate for you to miss your half marathon!!
Jenny-I totally know how you feel about feeling tired all the time. I've started taking a multi-vitamin and trying to eat better and exercising and that has seemed to help with it a bit!!
I wish I could quit my second job soo bad. My manager and counter manager have turned into the biggest bitches known to man and I'm soo sick of it. Luckily I don't have to work with them every time I do work so thats good. I found out that the job I interviewed for back 2 weeks ago is now going to be a job employeed by the hospital I work for so that's 10,000x better so now i"m really hoping that I get that job. If I do it should be a pretty nice raise then I can quit that damn job!!! I swear the only thing good about it is the free makeup samples I get and getting paid on every friday, that's about it!!!
Holy Sh*t! Where have I been?! Kellys pregnant! Woo Hoo! Tell me details!
We are in the not preventing but not trying right now also. I think its slowly being pushed into full blown trying or will be. DH is constantly talking about babies and kids. Its nice to hear it from him.