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As anyone ever heard of a Wedding Social?
I was talking to a friend of mine from Winnepeg yesterday and she told me that her friend was getting married in July so they would be having her Wedding Social in April. When I asked what a Wedding Social was, she told me that basically it was a fundraiser for the wedding. They get together for a big party, you pay $10 to go, prizes are donated for a silent auction and drink tickets are sold. All proceeds go to the bride and groom to help with the cos tof the wedding. I had never heard of this before. Has anyone ever heard of it? Been to one? or had one?
Re: As anyone ever heard of a Wedding Social?
I haven't heard it called that, but it sounds like a stag and doe (aka buck and doe).
ETA: I just looked it up, and according to Wikipedia, the stag and doe is a southern Ontario thing. Who knew?
We always consdiered a Stag & Doe (or a Jack & Jill) to just be a co-ed bridal shower. This seems to be much bigger. She said she knows of people who have earned as much as $10-15,000 !!!
That sounds like a jack n jill or a buck and doe parties that are held in Ontario... they are more popular in some regions that others, and a little controversial in that some people think they are just cash grabs and others find them a great time supporting people you love.
They are usually alot of fun though!
Interesting. I know it as a fundraising event.
I have friends who have made a good amount of money at their JnJ's... not 15K, but at least half that!
Hi! The lone Manitoban coming in.
A wedding social is just a big party hosted by the bride and groom usually a couple of months before the wedding. Usually in a hall with a lot of alcohol and a DJ. They are the place to go to get drunk on weekends for many people. They are just what you said- there are silent auction type things and there's a first dance with the couple. Some people do make a lot of money off of them but most attendees don't "mind' because they have had a good time (lots of drinks, good time dancing, etc) supporting their friends.
They are super common here (especially in small towns) but I chose not to have one.
Yeah - as people said basically a Stag and Doe.
Just my two cents but I really don't like them. People put enough time and effort in going to weddings and shower and paying for gifts - I think it's a little much.
That said, I do know is some smaller communities where they have them the couple doesn't do the showers and bachlorette etc so that seems more reasonable then.
Any Stag and Doe/Jack and Jill I have been amazing... lots of prizes to be won and raffles and gifts.
I was at one recently that was 20 pp(i thought was high) but it was 3 drink tickets (value 9$) and then a door prize ticket, which was a playstation 3..
So it was cool in that sense, they had a dunk tank for the bride and groom and all sorts of food and such.
Musical chairs 5$ but at the end of every round you got a jelly shot...
They had a dj and dancing also;
So if it is a big party it is more fun !
A while back we were invited but didnt attend DH's cousins Buck and Doe and they live in a SMALL town not fair from Barrie; and they were charge 15pp and then everything they have Silent auction, drinks, cash meter(stick money to the wall and they will do stupid stuff like dance to a song or make up a song for the other person.. was outragously priced... they had to be bills for the meter stacked horizontally and 5$ a drink (*they provided the booze to be sold) MIL said she showed up and looked around and left... no music(dj, just a boom box) and no where to sit, and a few open bags of chips on a table.. and apparently the good went to local business and said I need to get married and cant afford it can you donate something for me to auction off!
I think it all depends on where what area you live in will depend on what you call it!
I sounds like a Stag?
I know that in the Portuguese and Italian families it is used often. (Not all, but I can speak of those that I know of/helped plan)
The Bride gets a Bridal Shower ? gifts for the home or monetary (her choice)
The Groom gets a Stag
Stag: It?s a men only party [thrown by either the parents, best man etc. just like how a bridal shower wouldn?t be thrown BY the bride] where there is poker and other gambling games, silent auctions, raffle tickets, stupid games etc. The guests are fed a full sit down dinner (like a wedding) and it?s a cash bar in a banquet hall. They hire a professional company to arrange everything and usually after paying the company & hostesses (girls in skimpy outfits that encourage the guys to buy/spend more) the remaining $ goes to the groom. I have heard it be anywhere from $5k to $80k. Some keep the guest list close to just friends and family but others don?t know ? the people there all they want is more $. And as for the size if you don?t have over 150 people attending it?s no point in having one in a hall just do it at home or a rec. center.
So to me there are 2 ways of doing it since it?s a ?normal? thing for us
1) a party for family/friends to ?help? the newlyweds
or
2) a cash grab.
Speaking of all this is getting me stressed out a bit since DH is a best man and we?re throwing the groom his stag next year! His family is HUGE and so is mine, he?s marring my 1st cousin so the list so far is at 300 men not counting the ones we probably forgot - Yikes the work!! (And yes that is only family up to 2nd cousins and friends/co-workers)
Our bridal party threw us a buck and doe. It was a lot of fun but we did not make any money. We (Joe and I) actually had to pay money out of our own pockets to cover the costs because so much money was spent on food, the DJ and decorations. We weren't too happy about that but we had a blast that night (not the next morning
).
I have never heard of someone making 10K-15K though. Most I have heard of is 5K. I guess it depends on how much they charge for stuff and how many people attend.