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PIP my boy....feeling emo
As my pregnancy comes to an end, I am feeling SO torn about bringing this baby into our family. I wish there was a better way I could prepare Eric. He knows the baby is there, but he just doesn't understand that he is actually going to come out. When I think about how it is going to change his whole world, I feel really sad and guilty. Then at the same time, I feel bad for feeling that way, like it's unfair to the new baby. : / It's not supposed to be this hard for me, right?!!? Any second time mamas go through something similar?
Anyways, we took E to the park last night for some outdoor family time. He had a blast : ) (excuse his dirty face!)
Re: PIP my boy....feeling emo
I obviously just have the one kiddo, but I can totally understand why you feel that way. It's sort of like when you're having the first - well for me anyway - I was so excited, but didn't want anything to change between A and I. It seemed perfect the way it was. And then L came along and everything did change, but it's wonderful.
E may have some difficulty adjusting at first, but he will adore his little brother! Don't feel guilty. My nephews are 2 years apart and when the younger was born, the other was really good - he did try to steal the boob out of the baby's mouth though! They are BFFs now (most of the time) and love playing together.
I'm so glad you went to the park. The pictures came out so cute.
(((hugs))) I don't have two babies, but I could only imagine how you must feel. E will adjust. He might have trouble at first, or who knows. He might not even notice a change. I think going out to the park or little special mommy & me times will help both you & him. Thankfully your mom (and I'm sure others) are around to help w/the new baby. that will give you and J time to spend w/E.
Dont feel guilty for feeling that way its totally understandable :0)
Eric is sooo cute. Those eyes! Great pics.
I've had this discussion with many girlfriends and to be honest I just don't understand why people feel this way. I don't mean to sound like a b*tch, I have just never understood the fear.
You are more than capable of loving more than one child, and loving them both equally if differently. I've seen you with E your a wonderful mom and you will be with this baby too.
Your heart just grows with each child. It wont break. A heart is not limited in it's ability to love.
And as for E, while there may be an initial adjustment, having a sibling will be one of the best blessings in his life. He is going to be an awesome big brother!
Having a sibling gives you a tie to your childhood and family that stays with you your whole life. Long after your parents have died if you lucky.
You have siblings, did you suffer when your parents added children? Did anyone you know suffer? If you didn't they why would you imagine E would?
Like I said I'm not trying to be a b*tch or preachy. I've just never understood why someone would feel this way.
Now being afraid of how you will deal with the extra work of a second child that I totally understand. Sometimes I look at how busy we are with P and wonder how I will deal with two.
But somehow it will work out. I'm sure of it.
Amy - I appreciate your insight. I think you misunderstood my post though.
I am not worried about loving another child. I am just mainly worried about Eric's adjustment to all of this. He is the center of attention right now, and his world is about to change. He is not prepared for this at all.
To answer your question - I did have a hard time adjusting when my mom had my younger sister, and I was SEVEN. What a little brat I was. : )
Isabel was just a few months older than Eric when Joaquin was born. And we worried about the same thing. She was the only grandchild on both sides with no other kids around. So every where we went she was the star. Per my mom's advice we started telling Isabel that the new baby was "her baby" and telling her how much help she would be.
When Joaquin came along there was definitely some jealousy, some tantrums and whatnot. I felt so bad when I would see everyone fawning over the baby and she would be at their feet trying to get their attention, so Dh and I would make sure they paid attention to her. But for the most part she has been awesome. We make sure she is involved, like she helps me fold laundry and pick out what "her baby" is going to wear. She loved changing diapers at first but she got tired of that. And like pp say we make sure she gets her own special days as well. More often than not she won't go anywhere unless "her baby" goes too.
Val, I felt the same way as my due date came closer with E. ?I worried that T would feel 'left out'. ?I worried that he would become a big time brat, since the 'terrific 2s' were just around the corner for him. ?I worried he'd regress with the baby around.
But in the end all my worries were for nothing...Yes, it took some time adjusting, but T is fine. ?The funny thing is that he's become even more affectionate towards me now that he has a baby brother - LOL! ?And he loves being mommy's helper!
I'm sure E will be fine. ?and if not, I'm sure he'll tell you, ' NO WAY, Mommy!' (does he still say that?)
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Thanks Kat and Leann!
L - I was hoping you'd chime in since you have 2 boys. I guess I am just concerned about him feeling neglected, like how you felt. I know it will pass, but I hate to see his feelings hurt. : /
He still says "no waaay", but it's really only when he doesn't believe you. Ex: "Eric, yo gabba gabba likes to go potty on the big poy potty". E replies "nooo way!" lol.
boy do I know that one - -esp, since you're the one (at least in his eyes) that will be the one making him feel that way.?
hahaha! love it!?
No advice, just HUGS!!
(FWIW- Dr. Phill said have E "teach" a doll how to go potty, then when it does, make a huge arese outta yourself and throw a "potty party". Keep practicing that and when he is ready, tell him that Yo Gabba Gabba will call him/ or he can call them, once he goes pee in the big boy potty.... saw an old Dr. Phill the other day)
Jason recorded the same episode, lol.
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hey! Dr. phil must have been reading this book - -
http://www.amazon.com/Potty-Train-Your-Child-Just/dp/0743273133/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1250720110&sr=1-1
(sorry it's not a clicky link)?
My friend SWEARS by this book.?
i should pick it up. Is T potty trained/training?
eh - he's good some days & then he forgets on other days =(
The weird thing is that he's really good about waking up in the middle of the night to go potty, but during the day -- it just all depends if it's a good potty day for him or not.
I devoted one day to try training him, but I didn't follow the book since I didn't have it when I did that. ?I just bought it this past Monday - -I found it on the bargain book table at Barnes and Noble for $5.98. ?I've skimmed thru it, but haven't really buckled down to read it. ?
I think I'm going to buckle down and be really serious about this. ?I'm going to try again this Friday since I am off.
If you don't find the book in the next week, you can borrow my copy. (if you don't mind waiting)?
i have no helpful advice..
but just gotta add that E is such a cutie and his eyes can make anyone melt
Leann - that would be awesome! I'll let ya know!
Gwenz, thanks : )