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So my old job called me back w/ a job offer...

... and I turned them down.

 

It was like an outer body experience. I just heard myself saying, "Thank you for considering me, but I will have to turn the job down." I cried after I hang up with the admin, and I cried all night. I am still feeling down today.  I was so sure that if they call me back, I would jump at the chance.  It is ironic that I turn down a job I was hoping and praying for all summer... but I had to do it.  I have to do it for the baby.  I really, really wanted to go back to work, and we really need the second income, but for the sake of our family, I turned it down.  I know in a few days or weeks I will be at peace with the decision I made, but for right now, I am really sad that I had to make that choice.  By far, it was the hardest decision I had to make, but I know in the long run being home will be the best thing for the baby.

 

I feel selfish crying over a job I turned down when others have not been called back, but I hope I am making some sense.  I love teaching, and teaching has been my life for almost 12 years now.  I know I will love being a Mom, but I will also miss being a teacher.

 

So that's that.  I would have had to start on Monday, which would have been a nightmare.  I know things happen for a reason, and like DH said, something else will come along someday.

 

Thanks for reading.  I should really have a blog.Smile

 

Re: So my old job called me back w/ a job offer...

  • It sounds like you made a really good choice. Although it is tough- like you said, you are doing this for your family- which is #1.  You can go back to teaching when you're ready- but for now just focus on you and these exciting times, and know that you did what you knew you had to do in your heart :)  Even though it wasn't easy- it is tough to make the right choice sometimes... but enjoy your weekend for now!
    Don't worry about tomorrow. After all, today is the tomorrow that you worried about yesterday. Take each day as it comes...one at a time. Midnight Baking Adventures Blog
  • How would it even be possible for you to start work right now? Most people are going out on maternity leave right now. Would they have held it?
  • imageklmbride05:
    How would it even be possible for you to start work right now? Most people are going out on maternity leave right now. Would they have held it?

    The admin was asking me if I can work until Sept 20, and then go on maternity leave, but I told him I couldn't guarnatee that.  I mean, how could I, right?

  • I think its only natural to feel sad that you're leaving a position you worked so hard for and was a part of your life for awhile. I'm sure once baby G makes her debut, you wouldnt even want to go back to work ;). But like Lena said, the nice thing about your profession is that you can always go back when you're ready.

  • image4jewels:

    imageklmbride05:
    How would it even be possible for you to start work right now? Most people are going out on maternity leave right now. Would they have held it?

    The admin was asking me if I can work until Sept 20, and then go on maternity leave, but I told him I couldn't guarnatee that.  I mean, how could I, right?

    Right. That's is just really weird to me.

  • I think you made a good decision. Lena is right, you can always go back to your job when you're ready. You can't, however, go back to this part of your life. On the optimistic side, you're sooooo very close to having G!
  • It sounds like you made a good choice.  I know the decision to SAH is a difficult one. I've been there...I'm still dealing a little with the uncertainty because I've already left my job...about 5 months earlier than planned.

     It's scary thinking about your lost income...but as long as you can make it on your husband's income you can focus on what you're gaining...that precious time with your little one!

    And think of it this way...don't feel bad about turning down a job that others have been hoping for...you opened up an opportunity for someone else who wasn't going to get the call.

  • Thanks as always ladies.  I do feel better today, and focussing on the positive side. 
  • imageMrsRebecca:

    It sounds like you made a good choice.  I know the decision to SAH is a difficult one. I've been there...I'm still dealing a little with the uncertainty because I've already left my job...about 5 months earlier than planned.

     It's scary thinking about your lost income...but as long as you can make it on your husband's income you can focus on what you're gaining...that precious time with your little one!

    And think of it this way...don't feel bad about turning down a job that others have been hoping for...you opened up an opportunity for someone else who wasn't going to get the call.

    And you are right, Rebecca.  After I turned down the job, they called a friend of mine who also got layed off.  She is so happy, and it also makes me happy for her.

  • Wow. That would be tough. but yeah I think you made the right choice. You will never regret staying home with your baby. She'll only be a baby/little kid for so long. If you have the opportunity to be there for that you gotta take it. Something else will come alonge when the timing is better for you and your family. Smile
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