June 2009 Weddings
Lucy Elizabeth 10.27.12
Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
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Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
BU: Personality transplants
Do you have friends who changed once rings are exchanged? Read my latest blog for more...
Lucy Elizabeth 10.27.12
Re: BU: Personality transplants
Okay, the comment box is broken, so here's my reply:
I actually am judged a bit more by my married friends. Like, I went out dancing with just me and my girlfriends the another night, and I had one person say "But you're married! What was your husband doing?" Ummm...his own thing?
I also have had people give me advice on how to "be" married. Like, in my PhD program search, a lot of what I hear is "Well, you're married, so it's going to be different..." How? He's not coming to class with me. Of course, in terms of moving to a new city, there will be mutual decisions to be made...
I don't think we've changed as much as people have/are expecting us to change.
I have a set of friends that I lost some contact with around the time they got engaged, but i heard from one of their groomsmen that the husband T had drastically changed after the wedding. He never wanted to hang out with the guys anymore. they used to have a monday night guys night every week, but he stopped doing it. and I heard that the couple would only hang out with other married couples. I haven't experienced this first hand myself with this or any other couple so i can't provide any other details than that. now is pre-med and has a 1 year old son so he really can't hang out with the guys as much anymore anyway.
SBS, your MARRIED friends are juding you?! Gah, I don't get people. DH and I are used to doing our own thing (mostly because of our opposing schedules the past six years). While it's fine if people ask where he is, I don't comprehend the thinking that married couples must be Siamese twins. We're not two halves of a whole. We're two wholes. With two different brains.
Lucy Elizabeth 10.27.12
I dont understand this either... DH and I just got home from a fantasy football draft - his buddy called him earlier today to make sure I was coming with him (which I wasnt intending to) because he counted me in the # since we were married (I did end up going because his gf and another guy's were going too and it was at Old Chicago and I wanted pizza). I dont know why people just assume that being married all the sudden means you can't go out separately.
I also bought a car yesterday and the whole time we were at the dealership, the sales guy kept talking to DH like he was making the decision and I knew nothing. Granted it was definitely a joint decision, but DH knows zero about cars and I negotiated it. Yet he still barely spoke to me. I went to the sales manager just so he would actually talk to me. If they hadnt given me an amazing deal, I would have just walked out.
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