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Need your help (etiquette type question)
So this weekend my FSIL hosted a surprise shower for me - and I loved it, all my girlfriends were there and we had a great time.
I was very spoiled and I realize & am grateful for that, but one gift, the one from FSIL, is the "wrong one". She bought me my diaper bag which was supposed to be this but she bought this. This would not be an issue, but the one she bought is significantly too big for a diaper bag (it's called a weekender bag!), the only use I would have for it is when we go away overnight (which would be monthly or every 2 months). I would have to buy a new one for everyday use.
I have no idea how to approach this with her. I mean, I'm so overwhelemed that she bought me it at all, but I don't want an awkward conversation to happen when I show at her place post baby and am not using the bag.
She's really sensitive and I really really don't want to hurt her feelings.
Any thoughts? And suck it up princess is an acceptable answer, I feel terrible for even thinking of how to ask her to exchange this..
Re: Need your help (etiquette type question)
Ditto this! Great, and tactful, way for approaching the issue
I agree that she probably asked the salesperson for the biggest Lug bag, assuming that would be the diaper bag size.
I'm with the others. Maybe mention to her that it may be too big and would she be offended if you traded it for the smaller one?
IMO the bag is awesome. Yes it's big, but I find mine is bursting at the seams (literally - I have stretched it beyond its ability)... and mine is the bag you wanted - so you may want to consider keeping the bigger one.
If you don't totally love the big one, of course exchange it for the smaller one - I'm sure FSIL wouldn't be upset, but I'd mention to her that you were looking for the smaller version.
hmm, that's a toughie. The bag is awesome, so I can see why you'd definitely want to use it every day and not just as a weekend bag. I'd definitely talk to her in person instead of email as sometimes the tone is lost. And I'd probably tell her that it's fantastic and you want to use it as much as you can and not just for weekends.
Non parent chiming in to say I have no idea what the difference in the two bags are. I've clicked on the links, they look the same to me. Just different colors.
I'm not sensitive when it comes to this but I wouldn't be offended if a parent exchanged my gift like that.
I think that she would want you to have a bag you could use and if she accidentally picked up the wrong one then it was just an oops.
I would tell her but definitely not over e-mail.