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My husband is in trouble!
Ok, the other night I had his surprise party and his parents, brother, brother's wife and other brother were there. His dad made a comment about SIL being his favorite and my mom and sister were kind of annoyed. I walked into the room right after he said and he was flustered, red faced, etc. because I think he realized it came out wrong. I told DH about it and I guess he called his mom because I just got an email from DH's dad saying, "I understand you are upset about the comment I made, blah, blah, I"m sorry, blah, blah, all the girls are my favorites."
OMG, I don't care. It is more than obvious that he likes her more and I seriously don't care. It is obvious he likes his brothers more than he likes DH and DH doesn't care. I CANNOT believe he said something. I am so pissed right now. I really get upset when people don't like me, but I can honestly say it doesn't bother me that he likes her more. It used to but I realized what I would have to do for him to like me more and that just isn't me.
I don't know what made him think that saying something to his mom or dad was going to in any way help the situation. He won't talk to them about things that I ask him to talk to them about, actual issues, not stupid comments that don't mean anything, so WTH would he talk to them about this!? He is upset about, not me. Grrr.
Re: My husband is in trouble!
In the pick your battles world, I wouldn't carry the banner into this fight. Your H was standing up for you - even if it bothered him more than it did you.
Is it possible that maybe he's not as okay as he puts out there with his dad liking his brother's better? Knowing that is one thing, but having it said out loud is another - and it probably isn't that warm fuzzy to admit to yourself. He might know how it makes him feel to have that knowledge, but maybe he really doesn't like the idea of you feeling the same way. Or maybe dad's statement finally gave him incentive to express how he really feels to his dad about being less than favorite. I'd let it go as something that is between him and his parents at this point, and I'd never second guess my H's decisions in a disagreement with his parents.
Also, not being liked as much doesn't mean dad doesn't like you.
I definitely don't think he dislikes me, but it is more than obvious that he prefers SIL.
I think you could be right about him actually caring more than he says he does. I guess I just figured since he has dealt with it all his life he really has learned to not care. I've watched it for 10 years and it is pretty painful. He has told me before that I just have to realize that since they don't like him as much that they aren't going to like me as much. I guess actually hearing FIL say it really made him want to address it.
I know he meant to make things better and didn't mean to embarrass me, but he really did. I wish he would have talked to me more about it first before going to his mom about it.