Anybody NOT originally from Cincy?

cincygal08 · September 2009

I was listening to the radio on my way to work today. They were talking about how when people move to Cincinnati they have tough time meeting friends/significant others. (Anyone else here this??) They actually said people here are cliquey. I guess I wouldn't go that far, but I moved here about 3 years ago. I must admit meeting new friends has been difficult. I'm not sure it's more or less difficult then moving to any other city in the country though.

Anyone experience a similiar situation once you moved to the area? ....or maybe it's just me. Embarrassed

brown_bride07 · September 2009

Well I have heard that before but I didn't really have that problem. I don't think I'd say I'm from Cincy- I did finish high school here though. Then I went away for 7 years and moved back in 2004. I have not one single person here that I am friend's with that I knew from HS. I started a job here and luckily it was a large company so I made some friends there- but honestly the majority of my friends are from my church. I even met DH at my church (he relocated here in 05- funny thing is he went to UC (not from here) and was gone for 7 years as well- he knew a few more folks here than I did!!

After living in 3 other cities prior to this- I think they are all the same- except for major cities.

katieranck2202 · September 2009

I moved here less than 2 years ago and I am still in the process of meeting people. The most I see of people are the gals I meet on this board. I try to make it to book club each month and whenever we have other gtg as well. Before moving here, I lived 3 years in Nashville, and I think it took me almost a year to get a group of friends together that I hung out with on a normal basis.

daves_sweetpea · September 2009

People here get really hung up on where you went to HS/what Catholic parish you grew up in. I grew up in White Oak and I swear sometimes it feels like the area is an inbred clique of people who went to my grade school. Maybe some parts of town are different or get more OOT people coming here for jobs.

JulesET · September 2009

I am originally from New Hampshire and when I first moved here I was living in Milford and found it VERY hard to make friends and meet people. I thought people were very clicky and found it hard. I am now working full time and live in Monroe and still have not met many people but have a few really good friends. I think it was hard to move here, but I also think it depends on age and willingness to move and meet people.

kel716 · September 2009

I'm originally from a town in NE Ohio. I went to Miami for my undergrad and stayed down here when I graduated in 2000 (does that make me old?). It took a while, but I did make friends. I met dh on yahoo personals in 2003. I think you meet people when you get involved... and it's hard to do when you move to a town where you don't know anyone. It did help when some of my high school crew moved here. I'm also kind of shy... so that didn't help.

brown_bride07 · September 2009

I do think where you live plays a factor. WHen I moved here I lived in Mason and because of the area it was almost all people who are not from Cincy so people were looking for friendships. Now we live in a new part of Beckett Ridge- same thing. DH used to live in Finneytown when he moved to Cincy and he found he hard until he joined a church.

cincygal08 · September 2009

daves_sweetpea:
People here get really hung up on where you went to HS/what Catholic parish you grew up in. I grew up in White Oak and I swear sometimes it feels like the area is an inbred clique of people who went to my grade school. Maybe some parts of town are different or get more OOT people coming here for jobs.

Ha! Maybe that's my problem. I currently live in White Oak.

Moesten · September 2009

I haven't found it any harder or easier to make friends here than any other place I have lived.? And I have lived in LOTS of places. I think the pp's are right when they say it has a lot to do with putting yourself out there and getting involved in things.? As we get older though it is definitely harder to make new friends regardless of where you live.? People get caught up in their lives and it makes it tough to schedule things. I have to be very diligent about scheduling fun things or else we fall into a pattern of not seeing people socially.

Meg41208 · September 2009

I'm also from NH. I moved here for grad school and had plenty of friends (also from OOT). I met my DH there (he's from NKY). I don't think it's any more difficult to meet people here than other places, it just depends on your circumstances- do you work with a lot of people your age, live in a young-oriented community, etc...

cincyGirl1980 · September 2009

I am orginally from here, but didn't graduate from a HS here. Nor did I go to college here. It has been very hard making friends. I work for my family and I am the youngest employee by about 17 years. I did reconnect with very few people from my past, but not many at all. H and I talk all the time about how to meet new people...I am thinking about starting a dinner club so maybe we will meet new people that way. I should say that we hang out with H's friends from work.

margauxa1 · September 2009

I am not from here and highly recommend Cincinnati Imports. Check out the blog: http://cincinnatiimports.blogspot.com/

timmysgal1 · September 2009

Nearly everyone I hang out with in Cincinnati all went to Miami. I feel that people from Cincinnati who did not go to Miami I struggle to make a connection with.

Most of the time my DH and I hang out with my sister and her H, my best friend from college and her bf, and his friends from Dayton. I am trying harder to make new connections, but it's difficult since we have step daughter every other weekend, so I'm not super available.

steve&heather · September 2009

I grew up in Western NY but went to college in Dayotn. I only moved here after I met DH. I did meet him in Cincinnati, but I met him through friends. I didn't have too hard of a time meeting nice guys, I think it's more where you're looking than the city.

timmysgal1 · September 2009

steve&heather:
I grew up in Western NY but went to college in Dayotn. I only moved here after I met DH. I did meet him in Cincinnati, but I met him through friends. I didn't have too hard of a time meeting nice guys, I think it's more where you're looking than the city.

But we're not looking for nice guys! haha. Wink

steve&heather · September 2009

timmysgal1:
steve&heather:
I grew up in Western NY but went to college in Dayotn. I only moved here after I met DH. I did meet him in Cincinnati, but I met him through friends. I didn't have too hard of a time meeting nice guys, I think it's more where you're looking than the city.

But we're not looking for nice guys! haha.

LOL, well not anymore.

ilovehouses · September 2009

I'm not originally from Cincinnati. I think the issue stems from those who live here, went to highschool with all their friends that still live here. So, they have no reason to reach out for new friends.

I think Cincinnatians as a whole are friendly.

For me, I went about it like dating. I started asking co-workers that I liked out for drinks, or over for dinner. Then, started to meet their friends. When I hit it off with one of their friends, I'd ask for their #. The big thing is you have to call them and get over the hump of just being friends through a friend. That's how I met one of my best friends here in CIncinnati. Another thing is you have to put some effort into it for a while. When you get an invite, no matter how you feel, say yes, and show up. When you are first developing friendships and you decline all the time, people will start writing you off their lists.

I've also met others from this local board, and have gained a friend that way.

424bride · September 2009

I'm not from Cincy and it is extremely hard to meet people here. I moved to Orange County, CA several years back and made so many friends there over the 3 years I lived there. I found a lot of people who were friendly and open to meeting new people. Then, due to my divorce, I was pretty much forced to move back here and it's the same old thing as when I lived here before. I don't find people here to be unfriendly, but I do find, that as a whole, not many people are actually looking to make new friends. And, now that I am divorced, it's 10 times harder than before because everyone in Cincy is married and not many married people want single friends. It's definitely hard.

h20goalie · September 2009

I agree with you. We moved down here about a year and a half ago. We got our apt. right before our wedding and moved when we got back from our honeymoon. We just bought a house a few months ago and so we finally feel like we are finally living here. I am originally from NW Ohio, and then moved about 40 mins north of Dayton, while my hubby was born and raised in Dayton. We moved down here because of his work. I have met alot of people through my work and his work and that helps alot, but as for others, it is a little difficult. I guess we just have to give it time and things will happen Smile

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