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Vent about DH
One of DH's best buds from London just emailed asking for our home address. Fine. I call DH and tell him this. Then (and only then...people!) DH proceeds to tell me that said friend mentioned in an earlier convo that he wants to come over at the end of October for about 1 week with his wife (girlfriend -not sure what she is at this point - long story) and 2 kids. So I ask DH, what did you tell him? DH said he told him that our house is currently a construction zone and it's up to him if he still wants to come! WTF?!?! Just tell the dude NO! It's our house, can't we have any say.
DH is usually a rough and tough guy but it seems like when its for his buddy or family he is a real pushover and when its for my cousins etc. he gets all tough. So anyway, I email back the buddy and let him know the real deal. Then he tells me maybe he will stay at a hotel. In our culture that is like an insult if someone is so close to you, to let them stay at a hotel. I emailed him back and told him just reschedule...maybe early next year? Then he writes back that the tickets are already paid for! WTF?!?! I give up! 
Someone tells you their home is a construction site, you should just replan or call to find out the update or something BEFORE you book flights.
I called DH and he is telling me to just tell him, it's up to them if they want to live in a construction zone...so that's what I did grudgingly. I mean they are cool guests (well the buddy has come a few times before in our apartment) never with the kids though...they are very independent (they rent a car, buy their own food and stay out of our hair) and stuff which is good (different from other guests that we have) but still...
I am so pissed at DH but we have been fighting so much lately, I am wondering if I should air my grievances when I go home or just suck it! 
Our New Home! Renovation Underway! The Law Nest
TTC Journey
7/2008 - begin TTC
7/2009 - began charting
9/2009 - Dx Endometriosis
10/2009 - HSG/SA (Normal)
12/2009 -6/2010 - Lupron #1 & 2
Sep-Nov 2010- Clomid Cycles #1&2 = BFN
Dec 2010 - Clomid Cycle #3 = BFP (1/11/11);no h/b (2/10/11); D&C (2/23/11)
5/11-6/11 - herbal tea regime = BFN
7/24/2011- herbal tea regime = surprise BFP
Re: Vent about DH
I'm sorry things have been rough for you two.
I know it seems that within your family, people visiting should either be at your house or come another time, but if they 1) are willing to stay in a hotel or 2) really don't care about the construction zone sleeping quarters - its ok. Its not something you should stress about. Since they seem to be pretty independent visitors (and not needing to be entertained every hour of the visit), just let things happen how they may.
I'm sure both of you are stressed with all of the constant construction work and your own sweaty hard work on the house - its possibly why you are at odds a lot lately. Remember to take LOTS of deep breaths and that you are doing something pretty admirable - remodeling and updating your own home. It can get to the best of us!
definitely let this one go, and I hope you are able to have some relaxing time this weekend!
Bubblegum Explosion
Thanks girls. You are the best...I feel better already. I will take it easy and not bring it up. DH needs a break too...he's been working double shifts at work now for 2 weeks straight so I would hate to have a tiff with him, especially now.
Yeah Liza, we have been having more fights since renovations began than usual. It is indeed the stress of the house. But we spoke about it after the last fight (about 3-4 weeks ago) and agreed to work on that aspect.
And who knows, as you mentioned Nova, maybe in 6 weeks the house will be livable, and like Lisichka said, I might just enjoy having them over. They really are very independent guests so if we are going to have guests at this time, they are the best to have.
Thanks for the good advice.
Our New Home! Renovation Underway! The Law Nest
TTC Journey
7/2008 - begin TTC
7/2009 - began charting
9/2009 - Dx Endometriosis
10/2009 - HSG/SA (Normal)
12/2009 -6/2010 - Lupron #1 & 2
Sep-Nov 2010- Clomid Cycles #1&2 = BFN
Dec 2010 - Clomid Cycle #3 = BFP (1/11/11);no h/b (2/10/11); D&C (2/23/11)
5/11-6/11 - herbal tea regime = BFN
7/24/2011- herbal tea regime = surprise BFP
ooh Karllen...I'm sorry you are going through this. I would probably feel the same way as you...especially if DH said yes to them without asking me first. I understand about not wanting close friends or family to stay in a hotel, but your house is under construction, they shouldn't even want to stay there...I don't get people. =/ Maybe they will decide on their own that it's not a good idea.
P.S. How's Sammi doing?
Sorry to add my two cents late here, but I can understand your apprehension Lawby to having house-guests (who are family) stay with you when you're uncertain as to how the construction will progress. Because as any woman of the house, you want to feel good and confident about the presentation of your home when you have guests.
Myself, having married into the West Indian culture, I can empathize with this. Between work and double shifts, and coming home to do more work, any couple would feel the strain and tend to bicker. So, if you and DH can manage to get-away for the weekend on the cheap, or have a great date night, that should alleviate some strain.
Keep us updated!?
I know exactly what you mean about the hospitality expectation for family and close friends. My family is the same way. My mom even has offered in the past for strangers to stay at my apartment. I finally got her to realize that this is not okay. Recently, my IL's invited themselves to stay with us, only telling us about when they were coming after they booked their tickets. I like them visiting fine enough but wish they would have at least asked before making plans.
However, since your DH so kindly left it up to this family and they already have their tickets, I think you should just suck it up and make sure that they are accommodated as best can be. I also think you should make it so that they are as out of your hair as possible. Make sure they have all the stuff like towels and sheets, but maybe put together a map, brochures, and stuff so that they are self-sufficient. Hopefully, they will be spending most of their days out doing stuff and only there to sleep.