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Becoming an Un-Cat Person
I've had a cat (Merlot) for 9 years now - since she was about 6 weeks old. She is, and always has been, an incredible crab to everyone but me. Seriously, she hates everyone. MH and I have now lived together for nearly 3 years and she's crabbier than ever. The two of them have a mutual hate for one another, so whenever he's home, she's hiding somewhere. When she comes out from hiding, she and the dog get into it all of the time - the dog wants to play and she swats the dog on the nose. Long story very short, it's just become overwhelmingly frustrating to deal with her.
Today is where I get super irritated.....she peed on my stepdaughter's throw rug (which must be dry cleaned). Not 3 feet from her litter box. I know animals do this to prove a point, act out, or when something is physically wrong with them and I do hope she's okay - she's shown no signs of anything else being wrong - but I am at the end of my rope with her.
The longer I have a dog, the less I become a cat person. Frankly, I'd be fine if I never had to clean a litter box again. But I made a committment by getting an animal and can't break that committment. On the flip side, life would be SO much easier.
*sigh* I just had to vent...not sure what I am really looking for in this post, but I HAD to get it out. Thanks for listening!
Re: Becoming an Un-Cat Person
I know what you mean, cats can be a PITA! The cat I grew up with was a Siamese, a breed known for being "vocal" and high-strung. Did he ever live up to his reputation... he would pee on my mom's bed any time he got the least bit upset. It was terrible!
Our current furbaby isn't quite so bad, but she does have a habit of leaving "presents" for us on the floor directly in front of her litter box if we leave the house for vacations. This is a lot of fun for the person we have checking in on her. She also hates everyone, including (most of the time) the two of us. Another cat is completely out of the question, she would lose her mind.
Like you said, you have a pet and you take on the responsibility. She's a good kitty and we're happy to have her. But sometimes we daydream about what it would be like to have a pet who loves us and sits with us, instead of running under the nearest table every time we walk by.
Cats can be so #*&$(@ temperamental. Why can't they just behave themselves?!
I know what you mean
we have a love/hate relationship w/one of my cats... he is not very social, doesn't get along the dog, and only wants to be pet when he is hungry.
that said, you should take the kitty in to get checked for a UTI, crystals, or stones, all causes of inappropriate elimination - it's common for older cats to get UTIs so it is worth checking out
another thing you might try - that might make the kitty calmer around everyone is Feliway - it's a room diffuser/pheromone diffuser that can help improve some cats' behavior
Jaime & Brent
Oahu, Hawaii | Sept. 9, 2005
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