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"the" talk
This is the first time I'm talking about this openly...
So, DH and I have been talking a lot lately about starting our family. We're both really excited to have a baby - he's been ready since we got married - and we're both at really good points in our lives career wise and marriage wise. I have a great job that I love (most days!) and with even greater benefits that will come in handy while pregnant/after baby is born. DH is in the police academy (hopefully graduating Nov. 19th!) and with an excellent department that is more like a big family. He is excelling in the Marine Corps Reserves as well. We settled right into our house and love it - sliding glass doors, deck, and fence are all in and looking fab! Our families are awesome - no pressure about grandkids, just all support. So why the hesitation?
DH is set to deploy next year some time. I think I mentioned this in an earlier post. We were going to wait until he got back, but every month that passes, the deployment keeps getting pushed back further and further. Right now, we're looking at the end of next year already before he leaves. Two months ago, he was leaving in December of this year. I certainly don't want to be a single mom, persay, for 8 months while he's in Afghanistan, however, I also don't want to keep putting off TTC until he gets back. If the deployment keeps getting pushed back, I could be waiting forever to start our family. If he does leave next year, he would most likely miss the birth, and would certainly miss all the "firsts." I'm scared to go through it without him - he's my best friend and I would hate for him to miss all that. My mom already said if it happens, she'd be out every weekend and would take 2-3 weeks off work to move in with me after baby is born. My SIL is currently living with DH and I until she gets the bar exam results & finds a job, and she said she would stay and help out til he got back too. I can't stop thinking about starting to TTC, and I've already met with my family dr to catch up on vaccines pre-TTC, and I see the OB/GYN next week to discuss going off the pill and starting this roller coaster ride. I cut out caffeine already, I'm taking a pre-natal and have been for 3 months now, I've changed my diet, started losing weight to lower my BMI a bit, and of course, I've started reading everything I can about TTC. lol
This was more of saying it all out in the open than really looking for advice, but any thoughts would be much appreciated! 
Thanks girls!!!
Re: "the" talk
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Yowza... that is quite the dilemma you're handling there, lady! DH and I have talked about this subject seemingly endlessly. I'm convinced there is really no right answer. We've come to our decision in regards to TTC and our game plan, and are very happy with it, but it was a long, winding road to get here, and that's not even with the additional stress of trying to figure things out when there's a chance of deployment like you're trying to factor in. I can't imagine trying to juggle all of those factors that you're handling. While I wouldn't want to go through all of that without DH, it does sound like you have several very supportive people in place that are ready to step up if necessary and help you along the way, which is wonderful. That can't totally resolve your problem, but it sure could help.
In any event, if you haven't checked it out yet, be sure to get a copy of TCOYF - it's been a HUGE help to read in preparation. GL and keep us posted!
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Thanks, ladies! I have read TCOYF and it was really helpful! I've got a few others up my sleeve too -- right now it's "What to Expect BEFORE You're Expecting." I'm hoping to start it this weekend with the 3-days off! I also read "Conceive" magazine religiously. lol
I'm late in seeing this - but congrats on at least talking about it!
Ditto several other PP - you will absolutely never find a "perfect" time to have a baby. I think that if you're both ready, you should start TTC whenever. Maybe even ASAP - more of a chance for the little one to arrive before he leaves?
You never know what life will throw you, how long (or how short of a time!) it could take to get pregnant, etc.
Having a baby is a huge step, and it sounds like you both really are ready.
GOOD LUCK! Keep us posted. Very, very exciting!
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