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S/O Poll: Do you have a clock or is it just "the next thing" to do?
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Re: S/O Poll: Do you have a clock or is it just "the next thing" to do?
ditto.
If we're lucky enough to be able to have children, we want more than one.
So is it a now or never type thing?
I always said we'd try when I was 30. Now that it's like 2 years away I'm really thinking about what that would be like and it's mind boggling.
I don't have a clock installed that I know of. I don't feel any "ticking" but at the same time I realize I maybe should ease my mind into it slowly because I know H wants kids. And who knows maybe by 30 something will tick.
It sort of is for me. I'll be 34 next year. H is not on board for having kids once he's 45. That effectively gives us a 4-5 year window to give it a go.
I don't think I have a clock, but it's not necessarily just the next step either. We've always planned to have kids, and before we got married we decided on a time. As the time started to approach I still didn't feel any ticking which was starting to make me wonder about the whole thing. I really do enjoy my mid-day naps.
I was even considering pushing it back, then I got laid off. I think that really clarified things for me since I didn't have to choose between kids and a career. I feel so differently now than I did just six months ago.
Even though we haven't specifically told anyone, everyone assumes it's time given our situation. It kind of sucks that it won't surprise anyone when it does happen and now it seems like family/friends are waiting for it.?
as a follow up, I'm 31, and I don't want to be 40 when I have my first. It's such a huge decision to make and biology doesn't make it any easier
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What sucked for me going through all the IVF stuff is that at 35, they truly do consider you "old." You have to have all sorts of additional testing done and your success rates drop significantly. I know it's just a statistic, but I am 32, and 35 isn't far off, and having that held over my head sucked. Time flies and I'll be 35 in the blink of an eye.
That said, I am 99.9999% sure that we're done after these two. I can't imagine getting pregnant again in a couple years, feeling the way I have, and having to tend to two babies at the same time. In some ways I am glad we're having twins, as scary as it all is.
After 2 rounds of IVF & 2 rounds of FET, we were blessed with identical twin girls!
This.
I have always been a late bloomer, so I think part of the fact that I have an aversion to the idea of having kids is that I am still mentally/emotionally in my early 20s. :- By the time by brain catches up, my body will be over it.
I don't know...I guess all of the above.
Some days I feel like my clock is ticking and have BOTB the whole time. Other days I just don't want to even be around kids and can't really imagine having one of my own.
Then, we have H's side bugging us about when we're going to have kids and we both tell them not anytime soon, but we'll want them in a couple years. Those couple years have turned into a few.
It doesn't help that H will decide one month he wants to have a baby NOW and then the next he decides that the world is a horrible place and doesn't want to bring a child into it. He's so dramatic.
So, we'll see.