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PG Ladies/Mommas (a bit of a vent - sort of long)
I just need to vent. I am so tired of being tired and sick. I know the second trimester is not that far away, but I feel like my emotions are out of control, I feel nauseated all of the time, and I am still so effing tired. When will this end? Will is seriously end during the second trimester?
I also feel really bad because I have a friend who I used to hang out with all.of.the.time. She's really my only friend in Slidell. I feel guilty because so many times I have had to tell her I can't go out to dinner b/c I feel so sick. My morning sickness tends to kick in around 2:30pm and last through the evening. I am afraid she thinks I am using it as a cop-out, and I keep saying I wish I could go out with her, but sometimes (like tonight) I feel like I got hit by the nausea-train. I just don't want her to think I am blowing her off, and I've tried explaining it, but never being pg she doesn't really know what I am talking about.
Any words of wisdon about how I can explain it to her more, or do I just wait the next three weeks until second tri, and hope it magically gets better, and start inviting her out out to dinner again? I just don't know what to do, and I am sure that this is more emotional than it should be just because of hormones. For some reason the friend situation is just feeling overwhelming, and is making me feel really bad.
Re: PG Ladies/Mommas (a bit of a vent - sort of long)
Oh, Ali. I'm so sorry you've been feeling this way. I know how frustrated you must be.
I can't speak for the m/s although the general consensus on the 2nd tri board is that it does at least taper off once you hit 13 weeks. The fatigue has gotten better though. I am certainly not a ball of energy but I am able to function like a normal human being now.
I can't say I really have any advice for your friend. Maybe you guys could get takeout and eat it at your apt one night? That way you guys get to hang out but you can stay in your pj's. I hate that you're feeling this way. I hope it gets better for you soon.
I am only 3 weeks away from week 13, I know I can make it. I didn't think that I would ever feel this bad. My mom said that she didn't have morning sickness with any of her four, so maybe I wouldn't get it. I usually don't complain too much about feeling bad, but I have never ever felt like this. I feel like I complain all of the time, and I really don't want to be a complainer.
I decided a little while ago that I need to just keep telling myself it's not that bad, I can get through it, and it's only three more weeks. If I tell myself that enough, it can only work for the positive, right?
I think the idea of going to breakfast/early lunch or getting take out is a good idea, and I am going to suggest it. I don't know why I had a mental block and didn't think of that (I blame it on the emotions).
I think just getting it off my chest helps a bit, and thanks Shoe and Jamie for any responses, it all makes me feel better.
This is what we're here for!
One day at a time.
Write that on your bathroom mirror. Sometimes, that's the only way to get through the tough days. I hope tomorrow is a better day!
Jamie & Shoe, Late Night Nestie Psychologists
That's actually a good idea. I think it will be better tomorrow, and I am telling myself tomorrow will be a good day, and that the closer I get to 13 weeks, each day will get better and better. You know being positive is what I have to do right now.
Ali, I don't have any advice because I'm not pg or ever have been but I can tell you that I am thinking of you and that I hope you are feeling better soon. I'm so sorry that you are so sick and so exhausted. ((hugs))
Ali, I was like you and had the morning sickness in the afternoons into the evenings. It DID get better around the second trimester, just soldier on!
And I agree with Jamie's idea of going out for breakfast one day, that'd work!
I totally hear you girl. I've really not done anything for the past 5 weeks. I was so excited this morning because I had like 15 minutes of not feeling nauseated which is a long time for me. But I also had jsut taken my Zantac, Tums, Zofran, B6 and have my Sea Bands on. Please dear God let it lighten up in the 2nd tri.
I'd just tell her that you'd really love too, but these past few weeks have been totally kicking your butt. You don't mean to keep cancelling, but you'd love to hang out when you're feeling better.
I do nothing but come to work, go home and in bed for around 8. Not really because I'm exhausted, but jsut so miserable and at least I don't feel it as much if I'm sleeping.
Aw, sorry to hear you are suffering. It's been two years, and that feeling is still fresh in my memory. IMO, you are in the absolute worst part of pregnancy. Pretty sure that's the worst I've felt in my life EVER.
Hang in there. It will get better! You won't feel good, but like Shoe said, you'll at least feel somewhat human again soon.