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eek:going off my BC
but not to TTC.... I have been on BC pretty much since H and I started dating (4.5yrs). I have had no sex drive for the last 4.5yrs. He is the only person i've ever had sex w/ so i really can't compare to before I was on BC but I did mess around w/ previous boyfriends and I remember "feeling" like I wanted to do more. Currently I could care less if DH & I ever have sex and the only reason I ever think about wanting to is bc i know H is dying.
So last night/this morning between 2-4am we got into an argument about sex. this is not the first fight we've gotten into at these ridiculous hrs. H wakes me up wanting some and i'm like ew get the eff away from me. I feel bad but for the life of me i can not make myself want to have sex at that hour. But I also don't want to have sex before bed, after work, in the morning, in the shower, after the shower, before the shower- EVER. & i'm also completely crazy psychotic some weeks. I'm just over it.
So I told H this morning that I'm going to stop taking my BC. I want to see if it makes a difference. I'm crossing my fingers that it will. I would like to find a BC that doesn't deplete my sex drive, but this is about the 5th or 6th one i've been on and they've all been the same. I hate asking my Dr to switch me bc i feel like she looks at me like i'm crazy. I never really have any side effects except for my lack of sex drive-
Has anyone else tried this? Gone off your BC to see if your sex drives reappears?
Re: eek:going off my BC
I really have no other excuses except for my BC. i'm not overly stressed about anything and i'm not ultra busy, or super tired. I just don't want to. I think part of it is "in my head".... I think for me I know that I have no sex drive, and I know it takes me a really long time to get into, and it's disappointing, and that makes me not want to have sex even more.
I was on BC from the time I was 17 (it was prescribed for acne, I was never sexually active till I was 19). But I was on the pill until I was 24. I definitely noticed an improvement in my sex drive once I went off it. I've been off it for so long now, I don't want to go back to it, even tho its the only thing that ever worked for my acne. DH and I use condoms, because we don't want kids just yet.
If you are going off BC and still want to prevent pregnancy, I'd say condoms are the way to go, although, I've never had sex without one so I wouldn't know the difference if you're used to it without them.
Yes, we are going to use condoms. I picked up those new Trojan Exctasy... the ones with the crazy commercial where the couple can not wait to get out of the drug store. lol.. The only thing we used was BC.. we have used condoms before but we do not prefer them. Oh well. It's going to take some getting used to. But I really want to see if it makes a difference. We tried this one time before but I couldn't stand the idea of not being on BC. scared me to much. (this was before we were married, and having kids before we were married was on our things not to do list.
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I'm a little late responding, but I had the same situation. I was on bc since I was 16 and now I'm 23, I have been with my Fi for 6 years now and have had a very minimal sex drive. I also would experience some anxiety and panic attacks for no reason. We decided to stop the pills and see if it helped my sex drive....and it sure did! I mean it's not like I'm always wanting it or anything but we "do it" (lol) at least twice as much as we used to. FI is really happy.I havent had 1 anxiety/panic attack either..knock on wood... Plus you feel more too. The only bad thing about it is that we started using condoms and we havent used them for like 5 yrs now so it takes some getting used to. I track my cycle, so a few times a month we don't use them.
Hope this helps and good luck