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need anecdotal advice & I have a story
All right, first I need some advice and, just so you know, it's about my uterus. I have an IUD and have had it since February. My period has been kind of crazy while on it - basically had it for about 3 months straight, then it was normal (as in about a 28 day cycle) for a month, and now I don't know what's going on. Before I started on BC, my period came about every 6 weeks. Since it's been kind of crazy, I decided to start tracking it on the calendar. I marked out the 28 day cycle so I'd know how long my actual cycle is.
Well, it's now day 44 and figured that I would have started by this weekend at the latest. So, I'm getting kind of paranoid that I could possibly be pregnant. The thing is, I don't want to buy a pregnancy test only to get my period tomorrow, you know what I mean? Plus, I know it's really not that likely considering I have an IUD. But, at the same time, I also don't want to keep wondering. What would you do? Do you know anyone who got pregnant while she had an IUD?
Ok, now story time! I think I told you guys about my crazy sister who fooled around with my BIL. Well, she moved in with my dad about a week and a half ago now. My dad went to Vegas for the OSU vs UNLV game this past weekend and asked that I check up on the house while he's gone. So, I stop by Saturday to get the mail, and have a look around the house. Everything seems pretty kosher. I do see a note on the kitchen counter that was from my dad to my sister. It says, blah blah.. I know you've been going through my filing cabinets and you need to stop... blah blah... Put my gun back.. 
... What!? So, I kind of figured that my dad had a gun considering he used to be a law enforcement officer, but I've lived there for 4 years and I have never seen it. And, this is not to say that I haven't been in his closet (with permission, obviously). I figure she must have had to been searching really good. It's unclear whether or not she was looking for it... but the fact of the matter is that she had it in her possession. CREEPY! Anyway, just a fun story for the day - haha
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I would probably test, just for piece of mind. I mean, you're almost 2 weeks late (for your 6 week 'normal' schedule). Have you had any other symptoms of pregnancy?
Not surprised he still has his sidearm, most cops keep it when they leave the force. Why does she have it though. Odd, odd duck.
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Not to scare you to death, but yes, I've heard of people getting pregnant with an IUD. For peace of mind, I'd go buy a cheapie test from Dollar Tree. Even if you get your period tomorrow you only spent $1, you know?
Side note - my dad is retired law enforcement and I can't imagine my brother or I taking his gun or even touching it without permission or being asked. That was an absolute rule that you didn't break - ever.
I also have heard of people getting pregnant on an IUD. I've also heard of them getting pregnant after using condoms and on the BCP, too, tho. Nothing is 100% safe apparently, lol
That being said, my dad is also retired law enforcement. Which brings me to the question as to why your dad didn't have the gun in a locked case that he - and only he - had control of the key. My parents trusted me and my siblings, but my dad kept the key on him at all times.
So, considering your sister's questionable past and behavior, I can't understand why she would have ANY kind of access to a weapon. And if it was in a case, then shame on your dad for not having the key. And then to leave a note about it? Sorry, I just find this completely unacceptable. He should have been on her ass to get it back, not all blase' about "I know you've gone through my drawers". That gun is his responsibility, and the serial number is associated with HIS name. Esp. with your dad being an ex-cop, I can't even fathom this.
I agree. Like I said, I kind if figured he had one considering the fact that he is a retired LEO, but I've never actually seen it. I have no idea where he even kept it - I know it wasn't just lying about; she had to have been snooping pretty hardcore to find it.
I imagine that because he's never had kids around the house - we grew up with my mom - he never had to worry about a gun safe (I don't if he has one or not). She just moved in a week ago, so I'm sure he didn't even think to lock it up. He's also just want to "give her a chance" to prove that she's an all right person and that he can trust her - well, she already ruined that business.
Additionally, I would have also been on her like a fat kid on a box of oreos. I assume that he wrote her a note for a number of reasons - first being that she probably wasn't at home and she has a tendency not to answer her phone when he calls. Also, I think he had just stopped by the house on his way to the airport as he was leaving for Vegas.
Obviously this is not an OK situation, but those are possible reasons for why he did what he did. I get that its his kid and all, but she is crazy! And I definitely wouldn't feel comfortable with her living with me. Blah!
I can definitely see this. I guess I'm just of the mindset that (since dad and my bro are both also ex-military) that if someone has your weapon, one 2 two things better have happened. One - your hands were blown off in combat and your comrad has it, or two - you've been killed by the enemy and the enemy stole it. In which case, your comrad will do everything in his power to kill the enemy that has it.
That being said, if my dad knew one of us had his gun, and we were'nt answering our phones, he never would have left. Pats in the Super Bowl, Red Sox in game 7 of the World Series, etc. wouldn't have mattered.
I reaaaaaaally really really hope your sis doesn't do something incredibly stupid with it before he gets back. Even just showing a friend who now knows your dad keeps a gun unlocked somewhere in his house can be super dangerous. I'm pretty sure I'd be kicking her ass to the curb after that stunt, regardless of being family or not, ya know? Sleeping with your BIL shows poor judgment. Stealing your dad's gun? That's just insane.
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No one ever said my dad was the shiniest tool in the shed. It's just a totally weird situation and at this point, I'm just observing because the parents have got to figure things out on their own. It's just taking them longer to do it - and along the way they're just not making good decisions/judgment when handling the whole thing. I will keep you updated on this whole topic as it is sure to bring hours of frustration and amusement.
On the other topic - I did head out to the dollar store and the one I went to didn't have any! I had to get some mascara anyway, so I headed to Fred Meyer to get some. The one I just took came out negative, so that definitely eases my mind. I will take one in the morning for good measure and to destroy the remaining evidence.