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Facebook Drama

This is so ridiculous I don't even know why I'm posting.  I have a friend, we will call her A.  She is dating B.  They started dating about 4-5 weeks ago.  B is from my hometown but I didn't know him because he is younger than me.  B used to date C.  C is also a friend of mine. 

Backstory.  C told me FOREVER ago that she and B broke up (we're talking 12 to 18 months ago).  C told me more recently that she and B were still friends only and hung out and that she wished he would move on.

A and B went to the game with MH and I this past weekend.  This is when I met B for the VERY first time.  Keep in mind that C and I have been friends for 4 or 5 years and she never once introduced us while they were dating (which I THOUGHT was for only about three months).  I posted pics of A, B, MH and I at the game on my facebook.

C saw them.  Texted me saying she had a question but never asked the question.  This morning I discover that C has deleted me as a friend on her facebook.  I inquire with A and B.

B tells me that he and C dated for three YEARS(!!!!) and that they broke up JUNE.  C never told me they were dating for those three years.  Yet, she's now mad at me because B is dating A and I am friends with A.  Seriously?  I had absolutely nothing to do with A and B dating - B sought out A.  He asked her out the first time.  And he knew nothing of A and I being friends when he did so.  He found out later that his ex-girlfriend C's friend M was actually one of A's best friends. 

It seems that C thinks this was all a big conspiracy between B and me to hurt her.  So apparently I conspired with someone who I had never even met or spoke to to hurt a friend because I'm like that.  Yup, that is SOOO me. 

Anyway if you made it through all of that way to go.  I would like to fix my friendship with C, but I have no idea what to do at this point.  Any suggestions or should I just let it go?

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Re: Facebook Drama

  • That a tough one.  There is most likely no way you are going to change her mind.  I would just maybe e-mail/text her back and say, hey did you ever ask me the question you had?  My phone has been acting up and I haven't been getting all my texts.  Play the stupid route at first and pretend that maybe you didn't notice you were de-friended.
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  • You read my mind Mel.  I actually JUST did that!  haha.  I sent her an email saying I realized I didn't hear from her and wasn't sure if it was my phone or if she had found her answer then I asked when she would be home again so we could do dinner.  We'll see if she responds.  I'm simply flabbergasted at the fact I'm at fault here...I even remember when A said B asked her out and I said "Oh, I think he dated C a year or so ago." 
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  • I think Mel has a good idea, when it doubt, play dumb
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    I think Mel has a good idea, when it doubt, play dumb

    IF you can play dumb.  Some of us don't have to act. Wink  Honestly, I think I'd try and re-add her as a friend and also play the dumb route like "FB is acting up... I think it deleted some of my friends!  What did you want to ask me last week?"

    Good luck.  Sounds like C wasn't actually over B.. kind of like she was ashamed/afraid to introduce him around to her friends, but isn't over him enough to see him with someone else.

  • So NOW I'm being told (by third parties who know C) that C was still "talking" to B but they weren't together.  Which means (to me) that they were not dating, therefore she can't be mad at me for not telling her about A because, once again, I had no idea that she thought she and B were going to get back together.  The strange part of all of this is B said he changed his cell number after they broke up because she kept calling wanting to get back together.  And he didn't want to.  I'm confused.  I think I'll just see if C responds to the email and, if not, just let it go. 
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  • Yeah, I wouldn't talk about it to any RL friends because it'll just stir up more drama.  Deal with C, if and when she responds. If she doesn't, then call her and play dumb.
  • C responded.  Said she never received my text.  Silent on the defriending though.  Interesting.
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  • Looks like she is playing the "blame the phone" card too.  Interesting...
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  • Yup.  Looks like it.  I'm waiting to see if she refriends me.  I made a comment about facebook so we'll see.  SUCH high school drama.  You'd never know we were all 30 (well, except for B, he's 27)!  haha.
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