Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Bathroom Q: WWYD and Poll
So, today I had an interesting bathroom experience. 4 offices share the bathrooms on my floor. Today, as I was in a stall doing my business a woman from aother office entered, and she was clearly crying, sobbing really. She locked herself in one of the stalls. After washing, I did tentatively ask if she was ok (I did prefeace it with "I don't want to intrude, but are you ok?"). She said she was and thank you, so I left. WWYD? Would you even ask, try to help? Or did she just want to be left alone?
And a poll: if you were the one crying, would you want someone, a stranger even, to ask if you were ok?
As I've gotten older, it turns out I'm a crier. Sometimes just tears during a sad moment in a movie, to all out ugly-crying in my car. Although it's never happened to me, I think I would like to know someone cares if they overheard me.
[Poll]
Re: Bathroom Q: WWYD and Poll
I chose "maybe" because honestly, it depends on the situation. There have been times when I've just felt so miserable that I would have wanted comfort from anyone - and other times when what I'm crying and frustrated about is something that I'd prefer to keep to myself.
That said, I'd probably do the same thing that you did. I have a hard time leaving people if it looks like they're distressed.
I voted no thanks but I guess it would depend on the situation.
I have only cried in a public or sem-public place once that I can remember and I was mostly just embarassed. I had a really DUMB breakdown after taking the bar exam and I had to ride the bus back to my apartment. People asked if I was ok and I just nodded and tried to hide
I voted no just because I hate crying in public and I wouldn`t want people to know.
But I think it`s really sweet that you asked, she didn`t have to make eye contact and she knew somebody cared enough to ask!
Married Bio
i think what you did was PERFECT! although she wanted to be alone, she knows you cared enough to ask and that in itself can bring a smile to someone's face.
i'm a mad cryer...if I don't get my way, i get pissed and cry and really don't care who sees me. if i was in the stall and you asked, i would have told you i was okay and actually made me feel a lot better that people in the world really care and my crying fit is petty
I voted "maybe" - I would want someone to ask if I was okay. I probably wouldn't divulge very much, but it is good to know we are there for our fellow humans if they need it.
But with that said, if I am trying to pull it all together & someone asks if I am okay, it will probably just make me breakdown again!