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Just.Got.Asked.For.Coffee...Grrrrr....
So I'm rocking my usual lawyerly gray suit before a board meeting at work and this guy -- an opposing lawyer I've never met -- comes in and asks me for a cup of coffee. I pointed down the hall and said very nicely "the coffee's down there. Feel free to get yourself a cup." He looks all put out and annoyed with me. Um...seriously. Welcome to 2009 where they let girls be lawyers and make boys get their own damn coffee.
Re: Just.Got.Asked.For.Coffee...Grrrrr....
ugh. this is totally a pet peeve of mine. And it happens to me. A lot.
Another interesting occurance. There is a new employee in my building, hired about 3 weeks ago. He has been introduced to me no less than 3 times. I sat in on 2 meetings with him last week and actually offered legal advice DIRECTLY to him during and after one meeting. The other attorney (who is really part time and technically not an "employee" of my dept. since he is on contract) has been in here ONE day since this guy was hired.
For some reason [new guy] was going through the mail before the assistant had a chance to sort it into our boxes. He looks over at her (holding up a piece of mail addressed to [me], attorney, [department name]) and asks her what to do with it since the attorney hasn't been in at all in 2 weeks and he didn't see a mail box for us.
UHHHH, what?!?!
oh and further evidence of new employee's douchy-ness
he was wearing a washington football jersey on Friday (odd since our particular building is not that casual) and I decided to be nice and make small talk. Ask him if he's a fan and if he's going to the game. Blah blah blah, I tell him I have season tickets and never miss a game. His next comment - so your husband must be a big fan huh?
I totally gave him a dirty look and said, actually they are mine. All mine. MH isn't even really interested but comes because he has nothing better to do. (not entirely true, but really he probably wouldn't miss the tickets if I quit buying them).
It's amazing how stereotypical people can be, isn't it???
I came from a mega-DIY family. We never hired anyone to do anything. If it involved building, plumbing, power, painting, anything whatsoever, we did it ourselves. We had a tool shed the size of a small apartment (not kidding), and I knew how to use everything in that shed.
Ben, on the other hand, owns 12 screwdrivers, all of which are the same size (tiny, for working on computers), and a hammer with a loose head. His dad recently helped him put up two shelves in the garage and he is SO freaking proud lol - one is crooked and the other one is coming loose, but he put the shelves up!
Anyway, whenever we have a home improvement project and need to go to the hardware store, the guys that work there ALWAYS talk to Ben. He just gives them a terrified, deer-in-the-headlights look while I jump in front of him and start explaining what we're looking for. I always want to say, "Hey, you need to be talking to me. Not to him. Unless you feel like explaining what end of the hammer to use. OK?"
I'm also the one that drags him through the aisles at the hardware store, going, "Look honey! A 200-piece rachet set! We should get that" while he just stares bored at the floor and asks when we can leave lol.
People still do this, what I have BOLDED? No really, they seriously do this? Perhaps I've been living in CA too long because I'd shi* my pants if that had ever happened to me. And even if you weren't a lawyer, unless you're at a restaurant, who seriously would do this for him? Obviously someone is because he thought he could get away with it with you!
Yep -- I totally hear you. Even if I was an assistant bringing in copies for the meeting I would have reacted the same way (very politely tell him where he could get his own coffee). The other thing that was so annoying was that this guy was waaaaay too young to be old school. Such entitlement issues!
What. A. Douche.
Sigh...
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W.T.F????????????????
Seriously? You handled that much better than I would have. Good thinking on your feet. When I get infuriated like that, my manners are hard to find.
I wondered the same thing.
It sounds like you handled it perfectly... although maybe nicer than necessary.
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ugh.
from a fellow sister in law, i feel you. and no comment.
ugh.
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You know, I think you're right -- lawyers are the worst! Seattle generally has a very laid back business culture. Peeps say that you can easily identify all the lawyers walking downtown because they're the only ones wearing suits. I wonder if the coffee thing is really a power issue. Maybe this guy knew (or suspected) I was a lawyer but was just trying to establish "dominance" by asking for coffee?