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vent-mom-weird
ok totally random. i found out by accident (thru my aunt) that my mom had plastic surgery either right before or after i was born (so 30 years ago). Apparently this was something kept hush hush and only a few ppl in the family knew about it. Now my mom and i are bffs and tell each other everything, which is why my aunt assumed i knew and let it slip. I have been feeling really weird since i found out, like, why wouldnt she tell me? it's not a big deal but now it feels like a huge deal since she kept it from me.
overall i just wish i never found out. my aunt is gonna tell her she told me, but not till she sees her in person, which might not be for a few months since my parents moved away. (which has strained our realtionship this past year) i dunno, i just feel awkward and weird. and my mom and i are trying to work thru being so far apart and this does not help. Not really asking for help, but just needed to get it out.
anyone else find out some "family secret" year later?
Re: vent-mom-weird
I found out that the reason someone in my family got married was b/c she found out she was preggers. Quicky wedding.
Maybe your mom doesn't even think about her surgery. I mean it was probaby 25 or more years ago. H has tattoos and he's said that sometimes he forgets they're there.
Just an update. I have spoken to my mom several times on the phone, not discussing the surgery, and i think i'm fine. I think the bigger part was that when i was talking to my aunt we were discussing the fact that i miss my mom terribly since she has moved and when she "accidentally" told me i felt even more distant from her. it's been a rough two years to be so far from my parents (we have an amazing relationship) and the fact that the wedding was in that time as well made it even harder. So really i don't care about the surgery, just hated feeling so distant from my mom.
we try not to talk about missing each other too much becuase it just hurts us and we both already know how we feel. until my dad is able to retire, i think another 2 years, it's just a fact of life that they will live far away. thanks for listening.