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~tiff~
I thought for sure you WW would be related to friends/family offering to help w/the girls, then flaking out.
I understand how hard it can be, doing everything on your own. I don't know if it's more difficult (for myself) knowing how it can be w/help. I truly don't know how single moms/dads do it. P & I had a great system. One would either be bathing C while the other got his bottle/room ready or while one was cook dinner the other would pick up around the house. Our system rocked, and now that he's gone most nights it's difficult to adjust. It's difficult & frustrating because I want to do it all, I try to recreate our routine, but I'm only one person.
Try to remember you can only do so much, and while you're getting bottles ready as the girls are crying or don't have enough arms to rock them at the same time, you're trying your best & that's all you can do.
It's hard to remember (and even as I type, I"m tearing up), but I know you're doing a fantastic job.
And, it's only one more day until D gets home.
Re: ~tiff~
BIP-Isabel is wearing a dirty ripped stained dress, eating toast in front of the tv. Joaquin is naked cause he just got baby food all over his only clean playclothes. And napping on my lap cause I can't get him to nap anywhere else. We've got dirty dishes everywhere. Even more dirty laundry and no hope of even touching them today or even tommorrow. And I'm counting down the hours till bedtime just so I can have time to go to the bathroom without being interrupted.
It happens to everyone. You can dwell on it and let it get you down or you can just deal with it one teeny tiny thing at a time.
PS I see your gorgeous hair and stylish clothes and beautiful makeup and all matchy babies and read about your homemade baby food and your laundry marathons and wish I was half as together as you are.
BIP - I can totally relate! C works a lot of late nights (not as many as he used to but there's still 1-2 a week) so I had to create a routine of my own which I still do even when he's here. Both Sarah and I are used to it now. I had to learn early on that the house will get straightened up eventually and that spending time with Sarah is more important. Working and having a family is HARD...absolutely the hardest thing I've ever done! I have NO IDEA how single parents do it! You just do your best and learn from any "mistakes" for next time. It's trial and error for all of us! I wish I lived closer to you so I could help you more!! The good thing is...it's just 1 more night and D will be home! Yay!! I developed a mantra when I had Sarah that I use more often than I like...but it works..."This too shall pass"...and it's true! Keep your chin up, mama! You're doing a FANTASTIC job!! {{hugs}}
Ditto and,
Thank you! It's hard to remember this, especially when others try to say we shouldn't have moved. Moving wasn't an easy choice (still isn't), but we made a sacrifice to provide for C. Hopefully that sacrifice (or as others see it, easy way out) will pay off.
Hahahaha! I am laughing only because what you dont know....That you SO much for the compliments! I always feel like people thing, geez that poor woman needs help. I just this week got my regular, none maternity clothes all out. For the last 7 months they have sat in storage bins behind my couch. Yes! In the middle of my living room. I love putting on makeup and luckily I get to do so about 2-3 times a week, and I proudly wear Maybelline and ELF, yep, the $1 stuff! The only reason my kids are matchy is because its easier on me and the homemade baby food is because its cheaper! LOL...thats not the ONLY reason but still, it was one of the big deciding factors.
You always seem so clam and collected and Isabelle is SO smart and you can tell you work really hard with her. You BREAST feed! I am so jealous! You have 2 kids and no big old belly flap like me. It seems like you guys get some much quality time with your kids and I would trade everything for that. I think this is a lesson that things usually look greener on the other side!
thank you SO much for the kind words! You really made me feel great! Its important to me to be put together to have everything in line and to appear that way....well I should say WAS important. I am learning that the people who love me wont care about my messy house, greasy hair, broken finger nail, none-showered body. Its a possess but I am slowly letting go.
I love you girls. Thanks for accepting me and my faults.
BIP- Homemade baby food? Where did you write about that? DH's best friend does this and we were thinking of also. What do you make and how?
As everyone else has said, I admire that you are so together with the twins. When I saw you at the gtg in May, just after R was born, I felt so inspired because you seemed like an expert at motherhood. I only have ONE and felt like a chicken with its head cut off!
My SIL couldn't handle being a single mom so she settled for going back with an unemployed (by choice) loser that everyone hates rather than raise her difficult toddler on her own. Not everyone can do it, so the fact that you have done so much on your own WITH TWO these past few days shows what a great mother you are.
ya!
So funny. I considered my day a huge success because I managed to wake up with enough time to shower AND wash my hair AND shave up to my knees. I may of left the house without lunch, my hair still soaking wet and my eyebrows doing a very scary imitation of Bert. But it's all about the small things.
So thank you so much for seeing what I wish everyone else could see.
Tiff, you're an awesome mom, and I don't know how you do it. I'm up to my eyeballs in chaos with just one baby, so I don't know how you handle two. I can only really repeat what everyone else already said. You rock, homie!
I think it's great that you make your own baby food! I'm planning on doing the same. Do you use the Beaba Babycook or just a steamer/food processor? Got any tips for me?