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How do you deal with stress/anxiety?
Not that I lead such a stressful life, but I am a worrier and I think that leads to anxiety. *sigh* Short of drugging oneself up, what do you do to deal with stress/anxiety?
Re: How do you deal with stress/anxiety?
I'm pretty bad at it, but I'm working on getting better. I'm reading a book called Women Who Think Too Much (title sounds terrible for what it seems to imply; it's about not overthinking negativity) and there are some good points in it that I think help with dealing with the stress and anxiety of life and cutting off some of the effects of it that we can control. Namely, I like the tone of most of it--that I don't have to be passive and walked-upon to also let go of the incidents in life that typically make my blood boil.
Also on the book front, I picked up from the library The Dhammapada, which is a translation of the teachings of the Buddha (essentially poems on a more peaceful life) with a readers guide at the back. I have found that reading through the translations very relaxing and insightful.
For quick fixes--a treat like a coke or a cupcake; deep, concentrated breathing; or a silly movie that makes me smile.
But I'm kind of a work in progress when it comes to properly dealing with stress and anxiety. (Just ask my locked jaw.
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HI Bonnie: I hope you are not stressed or too anxious or anything but as in adulthood, these things are part of life, I guess.
For me, I am usually a happy-go-lucky girl but sometimes if there are too many variables exerting pressure on me all at once (like currently) I do become stressed out. My methods for dealing:
Just a few...although I really should take my own advice right now.
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I definitely do a couple things:
1) talk to a close friend or husband. sometimes just venting it out really helps and makes the worry/anxiety go away.
2) anything active: walking, swimming, yoga or something more intense to really get it out. a lot of times it either gives me the time to work things out in my head or it gives me the time to focus on me an nothing else and when I return to the stressor/idea/fear/worry it is manageable or seems less of a problem
3) I hold it in. this is the worst possible thing! lol. so, proceed to step #1 or #2 - hahaha
I'm really not into bringing drugs in - I know there are some very serious issues that people do need medication for, but I think that there is such a mind/body connection that its important to try other means of dealing with it. you can always vent to us too!!
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I *** & moan to my friends. Sometimes just saying everything out loud (to somebody) makes a big difference.
and every once in a while I like to read The Tao of Pooh.
Thanks for the feedback ladies!
Topanga: You're right...I do hide it well. =/ I try to be the supportive one all the time to people and in turn I think it winds up driving me crazy. I worry for me, the hubby, the family, the friends etc. I don't know why. And if it's something small, I usually blow it out of proportion in my head. *sigh*
I'm back at the gym again (went today and Monday) and I'm hoping that will help me out a bit...try and get my mind off things. My latest worry (more like a pain in my ass) is my brother's wedding in Florida. My mom is stressing on where to stay, where to rent a car from, what they will be doing which day, which family members of my dad's she hates that is going, etc. and then I have to hear it all and it's making me crazy! Frigg'n family!
yoga! best stress reliever!
My friend past along a great statement, don't know where it came from but her it goes:
Most of the things we worry about don't happen, so don't waste valuable energy.
This for what ever reason made since to me and has helped me alot. I am a worrier myself, I tend to worry alot about money and not so much about other stuff. So I try to keep an emergency fund and this easies my stress. I totally tend to go with the flow with everything else... Its so stange.