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Bummed DH - Makes me sad :(
Tim graduated in May and has been trying to get a job since then, but with the current job market, he hasn't been able to get one. He's one of those people who LOVES working and is such a hard worker, so it's driving him nuts. He is getting so down on himself about not being able to get a job and it breaks my heart to see him like this.
To make matters worse, I absolutely despise my job right now but can't quit because one of us needs to be making money. He feels like he's really letting me down and that it's his fault I'm stuck in this job right now. I keep telling him that he'll get a job and not to worry, but he is just stuck on feeling like a failure.
Anyone else dealing with anything like this? And if anyone has any good luck job dust to send our way, it would be much appreciated 
Re: Bummed DH - Makes me sad :(
I hate my job, but dont have the time off so I can interview for another one.
Also, I love your H's kilt. I wanted H to do that, but he refused. So, he can drink like an Irishman, but not dress like one. My H is an assclown.
DH and I went through this a couple of years ago. He got laid off from the bank he was working at (which he hated every second of, but it was better than being unemployed) and it took him about 3 months to find and start a new job. I also hated my job at the time but couldnt quit because he didnt have a job. We were both miserable, depressed, and broke. It was not a fun time.
The best advice I can give you is dont act like you feel sorry for him - I know DH got very annoyed with my pity. Also try not to bring it up all the time. I would call him at home and say "how's the job search going?" or "have you found anything good to apply for today?" which he hated because he said it was like I was checking up on him and didnt have faith in him to do it himself. I also tried not to complain about my job as much.
It was a really tough time for us, but in the end, it worked out for the best. DH was able to make a career change that he desperately needed and he is so happy that he held out and didnt take another banking job (he was offered one about 2 weeks before taking the job he does now). Tell him not to settle for something or you'll be back in the same place a couple years from now. I know the economy was better a couple of years ago but no matter when you go through something like that, its hard.
Good luck to you both getting through this.
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I love this! It was fun having him wear a kilt. All the men in his family wore them (Brother, Dad, Grandpa, Uncles) so it was a sight for sure!
Hawkilady, thanks for the advice! I
Oops, I hit post on accident. But I just wanted to say thanks for the advice. I've def. caught myself asking him about the job search and never really thought that he might feel like it's me checking up on him, so I really appreciate you bringing that up!
Glad to hear you guys are in a better place now!