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UPDATED: Advice needed regarding friend's loss
One of my best friends lost her baby girl when she was 26 weeks pregnant last year. The anniversary of Miranda's birth/death is this Thursday. I was thinking of mailing her a card to let her know that I was thinking of her but not sure what to write....do I include a happy birthday message to Miranda? Or should I just send flowers, or is that too much? I'm afraid to say, write, or do the wrong thing since I know it's going to be a difficult day for my friend as it is.
Thanks!
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Re: UPDATED: Advice needed regarding friend's loss
When my girlfriend's daughter was stillborn, I sent her a card a year later. I just wrote that she, her DH and [baby's name] were in my thoughts and prayers, and that I hoped to see her soon (we don't live near each other).
My friend does observe her daughter's birthday, but I didn't know it at the time. If you're not sure about that, short & sweet is probably the best way to go. I'm sure she'll be happy to know that you're thinking of her.
I agree.
Wow, how devestating. I think sending flowers with a "Thinking of You" card is a nice gesture. In time, you may ask her how she commemorates Miranda's day, but since you're not sure how "birthday wishes" may be received, keeping it simple and letting her know you're thinking of her is a great way to go.
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personally, I think a "thinking of you" card would be enough. I totally understand the gesture of sending flowers and I think it's a sweet idea but still think it would be too much. My MIL sent us flowers after we m/c'd, I know it's different from losing at 26 weeks, but even at that early time, I hated looking at the flowers. I didn't want a reminder in my face. I wanted to remember and deal in my own way, my own time with my own memories.
That's just my opinion, but it is sweet of you to remember her and her baby.
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I agree with this. Since you don't know for sure if she is going to observe her daughter's birthday, I think the best option is just a short and sweet "thinking of you" card - anything else, however well intentioned, may just be too difficult for her to handle.
I think you're a wonderful friend for doing this, btw!
Agree.
She also invited me to attend the Walk to Remember that was being hosted by the MEND (Mommies Enduring Neonatal Death) group this past Saturday. Nancy Guthrie, author of Holding on to Hope was the guest speaker and she had so many great things to say. There was a short prayer, an angel ornament given to each family, and a balloon release. It was so sad to hear all of the babies? names read aloud. I don?t know that many of you in real life, but I wanted you to know that I did say a quick prayer for all of my Nestie friends that have experienced the pain of losing their baby. Thanks again for the advice!