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FML
My husband just called me telling me I got 3 pieces of mail, all of which looked like invitations and asked if he could open them up since I am at work.
(1) Wedding shower invitation for the friend that I was bitching about who is getting married on NYE and made an ass out of herself at my bach part. (I am not going to the wedding, nor am I going to go to the shower)
(2) Baby shower invitation for friend #2 who informed me that she was KU'd at my own wedding. (not a planned pregnancy and decided to have a shot gun wedding the weekend after my wedding)
(3) Baby shower invitation from friend #3 who got KU'd unplanned and is no longer with the father of the baby. She was also about 3 months along at my wedding, but hadn't told anyone yet.
Without sounding stuck up, I went to a very good business school, and I would like to think that all of my friends are smart and very responsible. I just don't efffing get how unplanned pregnancies happen. There's literally like 4 days a month you can get pregnant and some how, some way, I have 4 friends with children that were not trying, not planning, and not married. (not that having children means being married by any means, but these girls weren't in any sort of relationship where they should be having children, or even wanted children.)
Gah, I just had to get that off my chest.
Re: FML
Lucy Elizabeth 10.27.12
Oh my gosh! This thread is hilarious and tragic all at once.
I am also the Queen of Unplanned Pregnancies so I can't really judge too much. ?I like to think of myself as a smart, educated and cultured person but it still happened to me too. Twice. Warning this may be TMI: first time, condom malfunction. Second time, I was on the mini-pill (which you have to take if you are nursing, regular bc dries up your milk supply) I was breast feeding and using BC and I only saw him once that month (we were in the middle of a move) and technically it was not even the optimal time to become pregnant! My doctor disputed the due date because my son wasn't even conceived during my "ovulation time." Apparently God really wanted me to have these children
But my point is, maybe they weren't as careless as it seems and this is just the path their lives took??
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KB that's crazy and very sad. Like Mamie said, I feel like people who desperately want children are always the ones that have to go through hell to get pregnant and the people that either don't want them, or aren't ready to have them are the ones that get pregnant when it shouldn't happen.
It's bad, but I can't be happy for my friends who are pregnant. When they told me I did my best to look excited and surprised for them and wished them lucky. I know they are trying to stay positive, but bottom line they are probably scared out of their mind and want to kick their own asses for making one bad mistake.
A friend who had a baby last year had a 1 night stand with a guy from Ireland that she met in a bar one night. 9 months later she had a baby. The guy wants to be a part of the baby's life, but the friend doesn't want his help. I just don't get it.
Angel--that's good to hear from you, really. I am always curious as to how unplanned pregnancies happen. Part of me thinks that even though technically you have a 'cycle' and you are supposed to get pregnant at certain times, it's never correct.
My friends who either are pregnant or have babies already.
Friend #1, long story, but she met a guy in college and moved to Brazil with him after graduating. She was going to break up with him and come home. They had sex, and miraculously she got pregnant. She is pretty certain that he purposely popped a hole in the condom to try to get her to stay there. It didn't work. She moved back home to Staten Island and she is an unbelieably great mom. The only reason why she kept the kid was because she is absolutely pro-life and no matter what her situation was, she would have never, ever aborted. I admire her for it, but she also missed out on what could have been a few awesome years of her life being a mother. The baby turned 1 in August
Friend # 2, was the girl I mention before with the 1 night stand with a guy she met in a bar from Ireland. I think the baby will be 1 in February. Apparently it was just a drunken hook up and she wasn't on birth control, and some reason she didn't bother to take the morning after bill.
Friend #3 was pure stupidity. She was taking marriage classes and the church preaches NFP. She took it word for word. Unfortunately for her she is very, very overweight and has completely messed up periods (sorry TMI), and other health problems, but you can't naturally family plan when you don't have a cycle that makes sense. End result, she got pregant, had to call off her wedding that was supposed to be this Jan. and had a shot gun wedding the weekend after mine.
Friend # 4 was a friend from high school who had unprotected sex once (stupid, stupid for her) and now she is due in December.
I know that things can happen accidentally even when you are trying to prevent, but I have been on BC pills nonstop since I was 17 (over a decade now). It's just something I do for myself. And I know it doesn't vibe with everyone, makes them moody, whatev, but I switch around when problems come up and it always balances out in the end. I feel so lucky that I was taught more than "abstinence only." I feel like I was a pretty smart 17 year old to take myself to the clinic and make sure I wasn't taking any chances. I can only hope if I have a daughter she will do that, too.
And what's NFP?
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