May 2007 Weddings
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Opinions please

I promise, this is the last Christmas post of the day.

For Christmas, I am having ornaments made for MIL.  I had actually already designed them but cancelled the production when FIL/BIL died.  I'm going to do it anyway because I think it will be something she will love.  SO, my question is which pic of MIL and FIL do I use?

The options are:

 

[Poll]
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Re: Opinions please

  • I vote for whichever picture looks the nicest.
  • imagePaula051907:
    I vote for whichever picture looks the nicest.

    Ha...yeah, I can't decide which is best either.  I think MIL looks happiest in the dancing picture.  She's laughing.  FIL looks best in the pic from BIL's wedding (but I worry about using it because BIL/SIL might not be together much longer). 

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  • imageHokieLaw:

    imagePaula051907:
    I vote for whichever picture looks the nicest.

    Ha...yeah, I can't decide which is best either.  I think MIL looks happiest in the dancing picture.  She's laughing.  FIL looks best in the pic from BIL's wedding (but I worry about using it because BIL/SIL might not be together much longer). 

    I'd thought of that (the BIL/SIL wedding pic.)  Go with one not associated with any wedding, then.

  • imagePaula051907:
    imageHokieLaw:

    imagePaula051907:
    I vote for whichever picture looks the nicest.

    Ha...yeah, I can't decide which is best either.  I think MIL looks happiest in the dancing picture.  She's laughing.  FIL looks best in the pic from BIL's wedding (but I worry about using it because BIL/SIL might not be together much longer). 

    I'd thought of that (the BIL/SIL wedding pic.)  Go with one not associated with any wedding, then.

    Then I'm stuck with Christmas.  And I'm worried about using it.  My mom actually told me not to because that was right before the accident.  SO, I guess the poll question should probably be "Would you use the last pic taken of MIL/FIL before FIL's death?"  Originally I was going to use it, until my mom said I probably shouldn't.  That's when I got in all the other pics and found every one I could think of of MIL/FIL. 

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  • imageHokieLaw:
    imagePaula051907:
    imageHokieLaw:

    imagePaula051907:
    I vote for whichever picture looks the nicest.

    Ha...yeah, I can't decide which is best either.  I think MIL looks happiest in the dancing picture.  She's laughing.  FIL looks best in the pic from BIL's wedding (but I worry about using it because BIL/SIL might not be together much longer). 

    I'd thought of that (the BIL/SIL wedding pic.)  Go with one not associated with any wedding, then.

    Then I'm stuck with Christmas.  And I'm worried about using it.  My mom actually told me not to because that was right before the accident.  SO, I guess the poll question should probably be "Would you use the last pic taken of MIL/FIL before FIL's death?"  Originally I was going to use it, until my mom said I probably shouldn't.  That's when I got in all the other pics and found every one I could think of of MIL/FIL. 

    I have to agree with your mom, I wouldn't use the christmas picture for that reason.  I think it makes sense for you to give her an ornament with a pic of them from your wedding.

     

  • I think I'm going to ask my SIL (my husband's sister) if she has any other pics of them that might be better.  Otherwise, I think it will be the one of them dancing from my wedding. 

    Now to pick pics of the rest of us for ornaments to give her.  I think I'm going to use a pic of BIL and FIL for BIL's ornament. 

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  • imagejalisni:
    imageHokieLaw:
    imagePaula051907:
    imageHokieLaw:

    imagePaula051907:
    I vote for whichever picture looks the nicest.

    Ha...yeah, I can't decide which is best either.  I think MIL looks happiest in the dancing picture.  She's laughing.  FIL looks best in the pic from BIL's wedding (but I worry about using it because BIL/SIL might not be together much longer). 

    I'd thought of that (the BIL/SIL wedding pic.)  Go with one not associated with any wedding, then.

    Then I'm stuck with Christmas.  And I'm worried about using it.  My mom actually told me not to because that was right before the accident.  SO, I guess the poll question should probably be "Would you use the last pic taken of MIL/FIL before FIL's death?"  Originally I was going to use it, until my mom said I probably shouldn't.  That's when I got in all the other pics and found every one I could think of of MIL/FIL. 

    I have to agree with your mom, I wouldn't use the christmas picture for that reason.  I think it makes sense for you to give her an ornament with a pic of them from your wedding.

     

    Whereas I have to respectfully disagree with Jen and your mom.  It's going to be a bittersweet gift regardless of what picture is on it.  If the Christmas you're referring to was a happy one with that family, just because it's the last picture of them together, to me, doesn't mean you shouldn't use it.  Either one, your MIL will feel a pang of sadness for her loss, but also be able to remember the good memory of it.

  • If you are curious.  I ended up using the pic of MIL and FIL dancing at our wedding.  I tried the christmas pic but didn't like how it looked on the ornament.  They both looked a lot happier in the wedding pic.  I also ended up using a pic of my deceased BIL by himself because he looked SO good in the pic I found.  I'm happy with how they turned out (at least, how they looked on the online sample)!
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